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06.19.08, 09:45 AM General Topics
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I am a person who is always late and have been all my life since grade school. late for jobs, school, classes, everything except dance class (I was always on time for that). everyone in my life knows I'm going to be late so they just don't show up early if they're meeting me. I purposely don't wear a watch because I just don't want to know what time it is all the time. I guess this is a bit selfish, but if someone doesn't like it they don't have to be my friend. I actually don't like being early for things, on time is ok but early annoys me because I feel like I'm wasting my time. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.19.08, 09:45 AM Flag
 

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Well, you are the only one that could change this behavior- but I guess you would have to understand why it is beneficial to change and really want to do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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it's more than a little selfish. why isn't other people's time important to you? why is it ok for you to disrupt classes, inconvenience co-workkers, etc by being late? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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It's not a little bit selfish. It's a LOT sefish. You don't like wasting YOUR time by being early, but you are happy to waste other people's time by being late. You're a jerk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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def weird buti feel the same way i like to get ready 20 minutes before i have to leave then ready 2 hours before and sit around waiting ...i dont think its a bad thing theres a name for what we are i just dont remember it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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It's called being oblivious to other people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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selfish? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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I didn't know there was a name for this, I would love to know what that is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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It's one thing to delay your own actions so you feel the exciting pressure to rush around to get ready, but it's another to delay to the point where other people have to wait for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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you don't have a cell phone?? NO ONE has an excuse to be late all the time in this day and age. I absolutely can't stand people who do this and don't bother to try to change it. It's infuriating for those of us who actually make an effort to be on time and to be considerate. We all have busy lives. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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I have a very busy life too. Most people in my life really don't have a problem with this. All my friends are the same way. None of us is stressed about time. I've had many friends throughout my life and no one ever complained or seemed to care. They were late or going to be late too. When I was employed my employers didn't seem to mind too much either. I guess I attract people who always late too. I let my last nanny know when I hired her I didn't care about lateness and she said she didn't either. We were both always a little late and it worked great for us. I was very late for the first date with my husband, so much so that he went home and came back. We've been married for 12 years. So I guess late just works for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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Yeah, it works for YOU. Then there are these people who, for no reason you can figure out, really hate you. Why do they hate you when you are just your wonderful self? Oh well, no need to bother with the little folk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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No one hates me. If they do it's hurting them way more than it will ever hurt me. Hating someone takes way too much energy. If you've got hate just let it go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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I am sure you haven't gotten very far career-wise. Very few bosses put up with this kind of crap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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I'm sort of surprised she's been allowed to get this far - my college and grad school profs would close the door at the beginning of class and if you weren't already in the room, you were SOL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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You know that's very interesting because my husband is late a lot for his job. So much so that if there's an important meeting his boss calls and tells him its important for him to be on time that day. He has been promoted several times and gotten unbelievable raises from this same boss. The reason is he may be late but he works harder than most. Has a great attitude and is willing to stay late, very very late to finish projects. His boss just doesn't sweat the small stuff like being on time. I am a stay at home mom so I am no longer have a boss. But when I did my bosses always loved me. I worked hard once I got there albeit late. Except for one boss, who was a complete jerk to everyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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Sounds like he is not high enough to deal with clients on his own. It's one thing to come late to sit at your desk, but leaving your clients waiting is not something that ever gets you anywhere. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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bull. I guarantee people in your life find this incredibly obnoxious. And btw, being on time routinely does not indicate that someone is "stressed about time." Simply that they are considerate and reliable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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you sound like a total and absolute jerk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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when people are late it gives me time to think about their faults. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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yes you are right..it's selfish and an entitled attitude to have [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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your friends must be just like you. I would never stand for this behavior from a friend or employee. Just RUDE [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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If you're so ok with this then why did you post such a lengthy paragraph about it? You just want attention for being late? Congrats! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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Good analysis! She's probably late to get attention, too. Hey, OP, look up "histrionic personality disorder." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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I was responding to the question In Talk, "What's your opinion on people who are always late" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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Now you know: people think you're a jerk. All your "friends" and people who "don't hate you" in fact think you are a selfish jerk. Now, straighten up and fly right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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Tell these people on UB the truth- you can't tell time. A digital watch won't work 'cause you can't do the math to figure out when you need to leave or any of that stuff. You have a nice rack so you can get away with it but at least be honest on an anonymous board. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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That is so funny. I do have a nice rack and a banging to go along with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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banging? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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I work with people like you. They are otherwise my friends, but that part pisses me off. I used to pick up the slack, but now I just ignore the work as it piles up. Looks bad for the department, but that's my boss's problem, I guess. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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