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06.18.08, 10:20 AM General Topics
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dh went to strip club with a friend and got a lap dance (for father's day) He ended up spending $200. then tried to hide it. Said he paid the babysiter, boating $ next day, etc. I having a hard time getting over it and the fact he tried to hide it. I'm a cool wife who usually doesn't care, but the $ and the hiding it are a real issue with me and I can't get over it. Help! [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.18.08, 10:20 AM Flag

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get over it [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:21 AM Flag

This is not a big deal and I'd let it go [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:21 AM Flag

I'm with you. BTW what's up with spending Father's day in a strip joint and not with the kids? Anyway I'm not a strip place fan and especially not a fan when DH's lie or keep the truth from their wives [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:22 AM Flag

hiding is bad, but maybe he was just ashamed and he thought it better to just not get into his stupidity... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:22 AM Flag

Jesus, let the man have some privacy in his life. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:23 AM Flag

if he this big man who feels like he did no wrong he wouldn't have hid it from you. I hate lies [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:23 AM Flag

weirdly this happened to me, yet under diff circumstances. dh got lap dances then lied about it even though I consider myself not nutty in this area, the lies really upset me hugely. I understand why you are upset but provided he has apologized and said he would not lie again, the next step is for you to forgive. good luck. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:24 AM Flag

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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:28 AM Flag

I think you keep too close tabs on his money and you should stick to his truthfulness as the issue [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:30 AM Flag

Thanks because I pay our bills and noticed it when I was online banking. It took him 2 days to come clean and he's usually an honest guy., sometimes too honest. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:34 AM Flag

np: his money? how about if OP and DH can't afford him to drop $200 for a lap dance? Not everyone can do this. They are married..when money is wasted it's THEIR problem [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:34 AM Flag

whatever - he spent it and that's not the issue. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:39 AM Flag

op: you are right!!! I just spent a generous amount on his father's day gifts and wasn't prepared for him to drop that kind of money on a lap dance!!! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:40 AM Flag

Sounds like he might have learned his lesson. Try to move on. He obviously doesn't go regularly or he would have known the cost. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:35 AM Flag

$200 doesn't go very far in a strip club. I wouldn't worry about it. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:26 AM Flag

np: that's not the point [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:28 AM Flag

its kinda sweet that he feels so guilty he tried to hide it. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:39 AM Flag

If my dh spent fathers day at a strip club i'd be pretty bummed. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.08, 10:48 AM Flag