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06.18.08, 05:53 AM General Topics
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My 10yr old dd asked me what gay means. I told her it means that when a girl falls in love, she'll love a girl, and when a boy falls in love, he'll love another boy. the other night we are at a resturant and our male waiter is clearly gay. (wearing makeup and such) and so my dd then says "so if he's gay, does that mean he wants to be a girl?" I said I didn't think so, but I wasn't sure. I told her that I think he's just comfortable with himself, which is great, but that I didn't think being gay meant he wants to be a girl. But I am not sure if I explained it correctly to her. Any gay parents/people want to help me out? it's super important to me that she accepts and is comfortable with all people so I want to be sure I am explaining it correctly. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.18.08, 05:53 AM Flag
 

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I think you handled it as honest as you could. Being gay doesn't mean they want to be that sex. My aunt is a very butchy woman (always been) and she's a lesbian but never wanted to be a man. You did fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 05:55 AM Flag
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okay, good to know. I have to admit, I had never thought of whether or not being gay meant wanting to be that sex. so she threw me when she asked. Thanks for your help! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 05:57 AM Flag
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yw..I know many gay ppl and being gay and feeling like you were born in the wrong body (and ultimately haveing a sex change) is very different. I'm so happy to hear how you were open with your dd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:00 AM Flag
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oh, again, I hadn't thought of that and I know there is a difference. I guess I could have mentioned that to her. I'll do that next time she asks. I don't want to overload her with too much info. I'm doutful that other parents have these talks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:01 AM Flag
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If it were me, I would have also said that as much as I love our friend who is gay, the lifestyle itself is wrong. Just as swearing is wrong and lying is wrong. I don't base my parenting style on what is politically correct, but spiritually right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:03 AM Flag
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that's fine that you have that opinion, but here's how I see it: while I hope that none of my kids are gay, if they are, I want them to know that my love for them comes before my religion. I want my kids to know that my love is unconditional because being a parent isn't about your kids doing what you decide is "spiritually right" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:05 AM Flag
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Sure it is. My job as a parent is to raise my children with the values I think are right. That's why I'm the mom. If my dc is gay, my love won't change. I will be sad though. They will have a hard life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:28 AM Flag
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My job as the parent is to raise my dcs with the values I deem important. That's why I'm the mom. If one of them is gay, my love won't change, but I will be sad. It's a tough life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:29 AM Flag
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My job as the parent is to raise my dcs with the values I deem important. That's why I'm the mom. If one of them is gay, my love won't change, but I will be sad. It's a tough life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:29 AM Flag
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