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06.17.08, 12:10 PM General Topics
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Cheating DH from yesterday, any more questions? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
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if your DW had a man on the side what would your reaction be ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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I would probably be really upset and want to know why and think that I failed her as a husband. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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you're kidding right... How you failed her as a husband ? Maybe she even knows about your extra activities... maybe she's out "comforting" herself right now ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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np: But you are a failure as a husband. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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she'd never cheat, not her thing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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she wouldn't cheat for sex, maybe. She sounds more the type who cheats for love. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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I don't see her cheating for love. And how do you cheat for love anyway? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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you fall in love with someone else. And leave your husband with the mistress he's not all that crazy about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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^this happened in my life. When my dh got caught cheating, we tried to make it work anyway, but I let go of him emotionally and met a wonderful guy. I've been married to my wonderful guy for 8 years now. And you know what? I knew my ex was cheating on me for a long while before I had the proof. I could just tell. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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How could you tell? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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You are thinking right. You have failed her as a husband. And you won't realize this until you are divorced...which you likely will be in the next few years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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tell her you are cheating, then ask her if you've failed her as a husband. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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If I told her, it would really hurt her and I would never hurt her. I care too much about her to hurt her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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you ARE hurting her, you dipshit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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why would we want to ask you anything? we can ask our own dh's if we are that curious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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Why do you hang out on UB? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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boredom at work, interesting conversations [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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Then why do you catagorize yourself as "cheating dh"- why can't you just start a conversation? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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Well wanted to pick up from yesterday [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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my question is- why do you want to talk about your weaknesses/failures? Why not talk about something else? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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I have talked about my other things too. I figured people would want my point of view on this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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Or- you get pleasure from it for some wierd reason. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:17 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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we can see that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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How old are you and what do you do for a living? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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do you buy your mistress lots of pretty, expensive things? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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like what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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Lots of clothes, some nice earrings, and got her new sheets the other week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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more details.. what kind of earrings, clothes, sheets? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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high thread count.....she likes J Crew and Banana Republic clothes and some nice diamond earrings and a pair of ruby earrings that she fell in love with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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are you sure you're not gay or a woman posting as a dh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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I am a straight man [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:21 PM Flag
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well, at least she likes average-priced stuff that you can get with a coupon... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:20 PM Flag
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I know - seriously - WHOO WHOO big spender! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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You are an ass. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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My husband doesn't believe you're a. real or b. a man. "No self-respecting adulterer would waste a minute on this website." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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What makes you so insecure that you A. cheat and B. come here wanting attention about it? Tiny pecker? Stupid? Mom didn't love you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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I am pretty secure. I am only cheating since DW will only have sex once a week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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That doesn't strike me as an honest response. That's too bad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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It is an honest response [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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Blaming your wife for your cheating isn't honest! But no use talking sense to someone who doesn't have integrity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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If we had sex more then I wouldn't cheat. See I really do love my wife, but I have sexual needs that she is refusing to address. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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Are you straight about it or do you hide the cheating? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:21 PM Flag
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DW doesn't know....three of my friends know and so does a guy I work with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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we women know a lot... maybe she's fine with you cheating because she's over dealing with you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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In that case, wouldn't she get a divorce? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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we can be duplicitous too... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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and great for the kids... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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So why don't you tell her? That might fix the problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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She knows I want more sex. We've talked about it a lot. And sometimes she gives me a little bit more but not enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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I just don't understand the need to hide it or lie about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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If DW knew about this it would really hurt her, and I am not trying to hurt her. I lvoe my DW and would never hurt her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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Well that's where you're just being lazy- rather than work it out between you & your wife, you settle for lying. Without honesty, your relationship doesn't have much to stand on. You are hurting her- by cheating, by having your friends know, by imprinting your kids with a pattern of a selfish marriage. You don't hurt those you love and cheating is hurting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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I am not lazy, this involves work. And I really am trying not to hurt her. I mean what is wrong with engaging in an activity with a co-worker? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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Only that you took a vow not to do it and if she found out your marriage and family would be over. It's wrong because it hurts people. If it isn't wrong- then why not be open about it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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I am making sure she doesn't find out. Because it would hurt her and then a divorce would be bad on me and I would never put my kids through that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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So at least you acknowledge that you are creating the potential for a painful situation. The only part you aren't getting is that without honesty, you really don't have a great relationship. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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I don't want to hurt anyone and my kids would be really hurt by this and I don't wnat them to be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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You're right. So you at least can see that what you are doing causes hurt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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only if they find out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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No, actually lying does have an effect. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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you are human garbage. if you really loved your wife and it was only for sex then you would not let a single person know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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If you weren't such an ass you would just jack off in the shower a few times a week to make up for it like most men do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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I have done that, but prefer sex to jacking off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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I think I am prety exciting in bed. I am into differnt things and roleplays. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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you think so, but what you think isn't what she thinks... she may not want to dress up like a French maid. maybe she'd rather get funky with a French man ? Who knows... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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maybe you could work on her pleasure- if you spent the time you used cheating getting to know her needs, perhaps your needs would get met more often. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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I know her needs and relaly focus on her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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You really focus on her by lying to her? That doesn't add up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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I know her needs and wants and I focus on her in bed and I am there for her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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she doesn't want you all that much, though. And you are new to your 'mistress.' A few years down the line and you'll be lucky to get it once a week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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My mistress knows that it won't last between us and she's fine with that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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On that point you have to be delusional... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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lame-O [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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actually your mom told me she really couldn't love you. Sort of an ugly and charmless little shitbird you were. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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lol! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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holy cow! you are a grade a prick - divorce her if you must (although I don't think "sex only one time a week" are grounds - but a cheater is the lowest of the low - you are pathetic [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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I am not pathetic. I am a good husband and father. I take a lot of time for my kids and I spend time with my wife. And my mistress knows that she comes after my wife. I've even told her that if my wife were to call in the middle of sex, I am stopping to answer, and I have. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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again with the word "mistress'... do you also use the word "panties" ?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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Having to be dishonest with your wife and kids isn't "good." You're not an honest man & you are too lazy to work out the problems. Face it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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I am not honest about one thing. But I am there for them. I coach little league and go to PTA meetings nad really focus on my kids. I know my wife's interests, donate to her charities and always attend dinner parties with her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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You're not honest about your sexuality- and that is a cornerstone of a healthy marriage. Being a man who stands by your word and being a good, honest man is way more important than going to a PTA meeting [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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I really do care about my DW. I mean I love cuddling with her in bed on a weekend morning and she is a great mother and great wife. I would do anything for her. I do not love my mistress, I am only using her for sex. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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I'm not doubting that you love your wife, but you don't have an honest marriage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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if your wife knew what you were doing, she wouldn't want to be with you anymore. So fess up to her and see how good of a husband you are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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but you live a lie - she would not choose to cuddle with you or want you in her bed or coaching her kids (or anyone else's) if she knew what a pathetic pig you really are - and your infidelity is grounds for divorce - you're quite the upstanding man! not [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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He's essentially saying that if he doesn't get caught, its ok. He doesn't understand that his behavior extends beyond the actual cheating. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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I am a loving caring husband and father and I don't want to hurt anyone. This is an arrangement that helps everyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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Again, if it helps everyone, that you can be upfront about it. You're just lazy and selfish, which to me isn't loving or caring. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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the ONLY person it HELPS (and that's definitely only a word that someone as morally bankrupt as you would use - is YOU - stop trying to convince us that you are doing the other people involved in this scenario some kind of favor! you're are the lowest of the low [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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I am not the lowest of the low. I care deeply about my family and am a loving man. I mean, I love my wife just as much as the day I met her. She is the love of my life. I really don't love or really even care for my mistress. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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You don't get it! I'm not saying you are a murderer, but you aren't honest. I don't think you can really love someone and screw them over at the same time- you can rationalize it all you want, but you don't love your wife enough to work out your sexual relationship. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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I have tried to work out our sexual relationship but she isn't doing the work to. If my wife were to want more sex than I'd dump my mistress in a heartbeat and my mistress knows that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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Well, you haven't tried enough- if she isn't into it, then you can tell her that you are having an open marriage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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your wife - should she ever discover your infidelity - would not believe a single word of this - you really don't know what it means to love your wife or you wouldn't be having an affair and blaming it on her (the woman that you call the love of your life) - so, yes, you are the lowest of the low [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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I really do love her. I mean why else would I stop sex with my mistress to answer her phone call? I love her a lto and will always love her. She's the love of my life. She just is causing me to do this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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omg - you really think answering your wife's call in the middle of sex with your mistress is a sign of your love for her? you are a truly sick human being and i feel sorry for your wife and even sorrier for your children [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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I am not a sick human being. I do love my wife and children. Why else would I take that call? When the phone rang, we were doing it missionary and I grabbed the phone and saw the caller id and stopped, rolled off of her and talked to my wife for a few minutes and then we started sex again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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Totally!! He/she just gave it away! Gross. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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ew. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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oy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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well, the bottom line is that he doesn't know how to love. He doesn't get it. That's just sad. It's sad for everyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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obviously - it boggles my mind though, how someone could be so self-involved that he doesn't recognize that just by being unfaithful negates all the other "good" stuff he THINKS he's doing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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It would be better if he just said, "yes, I want to screw around and I do." He may or may not get caught, but he's lousy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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so you found a sex object even more pathetic than you are - i'm sorry, but being a good husband and father (which includes being a good role model, by the way) and being a cheater don't mix - you are a pathetic man who should be in therapy to figure out your major emotional deficits, not taking calls from your wife while your in bed with someone else [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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She doesn't mind, because she's honest, all she really wants at this point in her life is a sex partner, not a relationship. And she's free to have sex with other men as well. We have a good relationship going on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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1-800-VALTREX [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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you didn't respond to the fact that you are not a good husband and father and that you have major emotional issues - big surprise [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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I have no emotional issues and i ama good husband and father. I would never hurt my kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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If my dh cheated on me, I would not consider him a good husband or father. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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you are a selfish prick - you have already hurt your children more than a shallow, selfish man like yourself could ever know - but, they'll know someday...and you'll pay the price for your lack of moral fiber [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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I really am there for my kids. If I didn;t care I wouldn't coach and focus on them. I love my kids and I love my wife. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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np: When my friend discovered years later that her father had been unfaithful to her mother, she broke off contact with him. He's never seen his grandchildren. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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Loving doesn't involve lying on this level. You're unwilling to work for a truly deep relationship. You aren't an honest person, so I can't see how you are a good dad or husband. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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whatever love you THINK you have for your family is overshadowed by your self love - really - you can keep telling yourself and anyone who listens that you are a good man who loves his family, but your horrible actions negate your words - i can't believe that you don't understand that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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he clearly doesn't understand- if he did, he would be honest with himself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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Hey good luck to you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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Y r a jerk buddy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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ego [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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you said it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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fakety fake fake [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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Yes! Can I have your DW's phone number? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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Hmmmm...I can't help feeling that the words 'Mistress' and 'Banana Republic' just don't go together... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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it's her choice where i am buying the clothes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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She sounds like a brand new in the workforce Sorority sister (I was on last night and kow how old she is) having fun with someone else's husband, and will hopefully look back one day and realize what a skank she is being. And may it happen to her too one day! You are delusional by the way... I told my husband about you and you better pray you don't meet him in a dark alley! He thinks your behavior is despicable... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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OP: Yes she was in a sorority at the University at Buffalo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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OP: What did your DH say about me? What did he say he'd do to me? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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Well, not to brag, but he is a black belt in judo - so he would JUDO CHOP YOU!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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What did he say about my behavior? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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it's all about you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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What did he say about my wife not having sex with me more than once a week? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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blame it on your wife- way to go loving cheater guy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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Unlike yourself, he is in fact a wonderful husband and great dad to our 18mo daughter and respects me to the utmost for having given birth to her. He is not from this country, and comes from very strong morals and values the concept of marriage. We communicate everyday about everything... not surface crap, like "how is your charity going dear"!?! He has no respect for men like you - he sees you as very, VERY weak. His words exactly. And by the way, he really is the coolest guy and everyone loves and adores him so it is a good thing you are nowhere near our circle to be compared to him! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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^^ OMG - and we have sex about that often b/c we are tired and work very hard and have an 18mo - but we have a very strong sexual connection and are very suggestive with each other with a lot of touching, kissing but not necessarily sex...! How old are you by the way? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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I am 37 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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I also respect me wife a lot and think she's a great mother. And I have a deep conversation wtih her alot. And I respect her charity as well. Why does he think i am weak? What country is he from? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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oy. you are really really delusional... but you won't see that until your wife finds out and you lose her respect and your kids respect and everything else you believe to be true... How is cheating on her respect exactly? So, you didn't answer, how old are you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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np: you ARE weak - that you can't see this is horrifying - and my husband would like to join in the lynching of this pathetic excuse for a human being [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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You told your husband too? What did he say about me? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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the same thing that your three friends are saying behind your back [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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My friends have shown nothing but support for me. And they've seen my mistress and think she's good looking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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to your face - but in truth they are horrified and think you're a total dirty dog who will come to a very very very bad end [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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My husband is from Morocco, and he believes in discipline, mainly b/c of his training, but also because of his culture. I think you seem like a spoiled selfish person with no discipline, and he does too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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Also, I love that you only really seem to care what my husband thinks, but all of these women are telling you what a pathetic creature you are and you are denying it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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I care what everyone thinks, but also realize that all of you are wrong about me. You don't get me and my marriage. I am doing nothing abnormal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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wow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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Do you pay in cash or with the credit card? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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Cash and sometimes with a credit card that I only have access to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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So she doesn't have an understanding of how the money works in your house? Your marriage isn't in good shape, but you know that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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actually I only use teh card so I can figure out work expenses, etc. and I get the bill on that. I only use it for dinners, so if my wife saw it wouldn't odd to her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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You buy sheets for work? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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I paid cash for them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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They do on Staten Island [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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Family therapist here and you are not a loving partner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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^^You are quite the cliche, actually. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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Seriously, and the fact that he is trying to justify this behavior is just beyond!?!? And of course we are feeding into his indulgence... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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np: Yes, the way he keeps coming here and arguing his insane position makes me think he's a sociopath. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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This is how child molesters work too- they always talk around the fact that they are harming someone [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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Exactly. Plus no matter what they do, it does not satiate their need for more attention. Hence, he keeps coming here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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Once a week sex from his wife isn't enough. All the attention and sex from the mistress isn't enough. We aren't enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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np: It's so pathetic he doesn't see it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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It is really sad. His wife may know, but it really, really isn't fair for the kids. Maybe they will learn by negative example [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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I am a loving partner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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lolol!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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no you are not - how you can continue to say that is mind-numbingly shocking [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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I'm sure you feel love for your family. The problem is that you have really grasped the consequences and implications of what you're doing to them, EVEN THOUGH THEY DON'T KNOW ABOUT IT. These things have a way of coming out -- often because the girlfriend decides to call the wife. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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or because the girlfriend gets knocked up and decides to keep it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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Have you thought about how that moment will play out? And where it will leave the Love of your Life and the Kids You Would Never Hurt? And where it will leave YOU? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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^^haven't [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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these posts are interesting. so many angry women out there, i'd be too i guess if it were my dh. i recognize dh's sexual needs are greater than mine, we have sex about once a week when there is time and i'm not too tired(7 mo ds & 3yo dd, sahm w/no help at all). i know i have to ramp it up for both of us, but these children just don't seem to sleep so i feel badly sometimes for dh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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