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06.17.08, 12:08 PM General Topics
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My 4 yo DD is a bit of a brat. At times, she is wonderfully empathetic and sensitive. Other times, especially w/ certain friends, she can be quite mean. If she is out with a friend, she may refuse to sit next to her at lunch or hold her hand, even though the friend wants her to do that. The friend usually dissolves into tears b/c my DD refuses, and that seems to have no effect on my DD. I have spoken to her about being nice and mindful of people's feelings, but she is 4 years old and I don't know how much is sinking in. Is there something I should be doing? Thanks! [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.17.08, 12:08 PM Flag
 

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not sure but it sounds like she'll be a great lawyer someday... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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dah dum dum [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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it wasn't meant to be a joke. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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op: Oh, I hope not. I'm a lawyer and really don't want DD to become one. I think I'm a friendly lawyer, though! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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my dd is the same way some times. but it usually happens with kids she has zero chemistry with. I am trying to limit her exposure to those kids not to hurt their feelings. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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op: Thanks. This usually happens with her two "best friends," so it's extra frustrating b/c they ask to be together all the time and then they fight all the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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I am going through the same exact thing w/ my dd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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I talk to my 2 1/2 yr old about compassion. If she snaps at someone I tell her to use her sweet voice, to be nice. I think that you can only just keep repeating this kind of talk, demonstrating kindness... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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I try to just push the golden rule on a regular basis (in kid terms of course). I figure it will sink in eventually. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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I think 4yo can be notorious for this sort of thing. Ds is now 5 and he is starting to get it, but at four--it was meaningless to him. Now, he initiates a lot of talk about what's nice, what might hurt someone's feelings, etc. If, I can just get the bragging under control . . . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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is she in school? does she have older siblings? it's very hard once they are with other kids...they pick up bad behaviors and build on it. i tell dcs that they must speak to and treat everyone with respect. i find that saying it like that has more of an impact than "be nice". e.g. she doesn't have to hold hands but she has to decline politely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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