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06.17.08, 09:23 AM General Topics
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Dd will be 3 in September. For the last few months she has started telling us that she is a boy and she will even talk in this really low voice. She will do it for a whole day. Today, we were at at playdate and one of the other girls started saying "She thinks she is a boy!" and all the other moms looked at me with these expressions like they had talked about it. They then started asking me, "why do you think she does that?" It was clear that they had all had some sort of discussion about her saying this. Is her behavior completely abnormal? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.17.08, 09:23 AM Flag

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no, not abnormal. laugh it off. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:24 AM Flag

seems normal to me. My 3 yo thought she was a boy for a while. She doesn't pretend to be a boy, but she has variously pretended to be a wolf, a dolphin, or a dog at playdates... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:25 AM Flag

Did she do it consistently? Our dd does a lot. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:30 AM Flag

Not sure if it's abnormal, but people are always paranoid about gender issues. Maybe you could talk with your ped and ask what he/she thinks. I know that won't solve the issue with the other mothers, but frankly - fuck the other mothers and their narrow gossiping minds. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:26 AM Flag

i think the gender thing makes people uncomfortable. my dd's friend spent 6 months insisting she was dora. she'd get offended if anyone called her by her real name or called her sister anything but "boots." i don't think pretending to be a boy is any different. but people react more strongly to that kind of thing just like they react more strongly to biting than they do to hitting. (and, if you think about it - both biting and hitting are simply forms of aggression - neither is objectively better or worse than the other.) [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:40 AM Flag

Those moms need to get a clue. At 3 yo no one should be reading any deep meaning into that sort of behavior. Might it mean something? Possibly. Might it mean nothing? Possibly. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:44 AM Flag

Funny, apparently I did this and kept it up for a few years. My uncle was convinced something was wrong with me and consulted a friend who was a child psych. I outgrew it and ended up pretty femenine. My parents just let me do my own thing and rode it out. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:29 AM Flag

it could be run of the mill stuff or she could truly have gender displacement issues. It happens. She might turn out to be transgender. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:32 AM Flag

Tell them she really wants to be president and is convinced this is her best chance. Then kick one of them in the head. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:38 AM Flag