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06.16.08, 13:40 PM General Topics
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Same sex twins, one got in to the TAG program for K, the other, by a few points, did not. What to do? Send them to a school w/o a TAG program? Send them to local school with TAG and let one by labeled as the "smart" one? Don't want one to miss out, but don't want the other to be labeled and feel like crap. They are competitive as it is. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.16.08, 01:40 PM Flag
 

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ouch that's hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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Can you see a difference bt the two? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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Send one to tag and test the other one for first grade. If child doesn't get in, then decide. Tell this this year that you want to try letting them have their own schools and own friends. If you decide to change it next year, you just say, I wanted you both to be in the same school. They are too young to know "smart" for K. but you will have to deal by first. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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good answer ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 02:26 PM Flag
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That's my issue: I'd go nuts having to bring them to separate schools (I work outside the home) now. I'm worried that there won't be spots in 1st grade at our school of choice that's not TAG...i.e., it's oversubscribed and much easier to get in now than in 1st grade. In fact, they're in now--I'm just having second thoughts about *not* sending the "gifted" one to the TAG program. And yes, I see differences, but not in terms of how intelligent they each are. They are just different kinds of learners. Both are perfectly bright. I put "gifted" in quotes because I think of gifted as a kid who plays the violin or reads while still in diapers. Mine are smart kids, but not gifted like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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Is there a sibling policy for twins? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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Yes, for the school but not for TAG. I.e., lower scorer is guaranteed a spot at the same school as higher scorer, but not in the same class. Everyone over grade 1 knows which class is which. And I thought waiting for replies was the hard part. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 02:23 PM Flag
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I see what you mean. That is tough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 02:24 PM Flag
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Thanks for listening, anyway, and for your thoughtful reply. Will probably send them to the non-TAG school and retest next year and see how we feel about it all then. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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I have twins, and would not send one to G&T and the other to gen ed. feel it would be negative FOR ME psychologically. later for them as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 03:07 PM Flag
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I think you're right...that's what I'm leaning toward, sending them both to a gen ed school, which people seem to like. It's hard because you can't tell them wholesale that the test means "nothing" because that's not entirely true and I don't want to belittle one's achievement. It just doesn't mean everything. They were 4 when they took it! But I don't think they'll get that now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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I think I would send them both to gen ed. When it really comes down to it, I have a hard time believing that the G&T programs (especially the district ones, which are only enriched) are that much better or stronger. Why draw a distinction between the two now? I'm all for parenting each child differently when the need arises, but there doesn't seem to be such a compelling need in this case (perhaps if there was a huge score gap between the two). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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Thanks. You know, there's so much frenzy about who got the 99 and the 97 that it's hard not to get caught up in it. I swore I wouldn't but I also swore I wouldn't feel bad about not being able to nurse both of them exclusively, and of course I did. Clearly this is my issue... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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Which schools? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 02:53 PM Flag
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I'd rather not say. It's a district G&T program and a progressive school. The scores for the schools are pretty much the same and they were rated the same in that survey last year. They both have outside partnerships. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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I would send the one to G&T, with the hopes of the other testing in the following year (or even if not). I would explain to them that they are both smart, but one had a better testing day than the other, or that the test measure only a narrow band of intelligence. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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and maybe the dumber one will be dumb enough to believe it! Please, don't delude yourself! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 03:08 PM Flag
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I appreciate that explanation but I fear my 5-year-olds will not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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what's best for the kids? you're saying that they are different, you will be regretting later not putting the smart kid into gifted program. plus again you have an option to retest again next year [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 03:17 PM Flag
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Honestly, I think they'd both do well in whichever school I send them to for next year. I guess we can reevaluate then. I just hate all this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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