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06.16.08, 08:41 AM New York City
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i feel so worn down - dh and i have same arguments over and over - he suffers from depression and i get so tired of dealing with it - feel like i am being cheated out of a 'normal' life - worry about my dcs and hate how he snaps at them somedays. Things had been improving lately and stupid dr. told dh to decrease his meds - spent most of weekend in bed, crabby - a horrible fathers day and i just feel so sad. Sometimes i just want to leave him; other times i can't imagine my life without him. Does anyone have any advice? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
New York City 06.16.08, 08:41 AM Flag
 

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I have no advice. I've lived with a man like that for 20 years. I try to focus on the things I love about him and try not to let him drag me down when he's feeling in the dumps. When I tried to be his cheerleader, it drained me completely. Now I'm like if you're going to be that way, then I'm going to go do something I want to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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so you're still with him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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yes, married almost 20 years. together almost 27. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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that is kind of what i have started doing - i'm not going to let it ruin my summer with dcs - he doesn't feel good - i take them out by myself. just makes me sad as i feel like he is going to miss so much with dcs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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OR here: my BIL is exactly the same way and his wife divorced him after 10 years, although she was much younger that I was when they married. She said she wanted to do it for her kids, but in her case, I think the kids suffered more from the divorce than they did from having a sometimes depressed dad. the winner in all that was actually the dad, because it forced him to get help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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OP: kind of the same in my case - i don't think i would ever divorce because my dcs really love their dad and vice versa - not abusive in any way - it just sometimes really wears on me and I often feel like this on Mondays after being with him all weekend. He is on meds and constantly at dr. getting help - just not sure what else can be done. he tries and it is frustrating to him also. I unfortunatley sometimes loose my patience and that makes everything worse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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you can't be a saint. it's very draining living with someone like that when they going through a bad spell. do the best you and cut yourself some slack when you lose it. The fact that he's trying is a big plus. My dh has gotten much better at managing his moods as he gotten older. Don't know if that is typical or not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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