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06.16.08, 07:59 AM General Topics
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dh and I are in a major stand off with bil and mil. Even if we were to "rise above" they would only use it as another opportunity to hurt us and shut us out. Today I am just so sad thinking about how much damage this is doing to me emotionally. I wish I was more like them and could just not care any more. I hate that I secretly hold out hope that we will resolve this, and that I am still so hurt by their treatment of me and my family. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.16.08, 07:59 AM Flag

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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:04 AM Flag

Too much to tell but angry MIL upset about her divorce pitted the sons against each other using their wives. BIL was very vulnerable at the time because he was being protective of his wife and believe we were all out to get her. He has since stopped talking to fil, dh, and several of his bff's from college. My new sil fed into all of this because she has her own issues. An abusive dad (held gun to her head and her mothers) and grew up poor, so she needed to believe we hated her too. MIL used it as an opportunity to get bil to take she side in the divorce she was in the middle of. Turned bil against his father. The whole thing is just such a mess now and the detail of how this has played are VERY ugly. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:09 AM Flag

Sad story. Your MIL sounds nasty. I hope relationships can be recovered over time. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:14 AM Flag

This could be my post except it's my FIL and SIL. I have to keep reminding myself that they have some pretty severe control issues, and in the case of my SIL, she is really psychologically stunted. I spent 15 years growing closer to DH's family than my own, and then poof, it's all thrown away by them. It sucks sucks sucks. But what's important is that you and DH are on the same side and you can move on. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:06 AM Flag

That has been hard for me too. I was married to dh for 8 years. It took me a long time to get close to bil, but by all accounts we were close. In fact he turned on me because I wanted to get to know his gf (now dw) better and he thought I just wanted to trash her. Now we no one speaks to each other and my children no longer have an uncle. I am an only and dh only had the one brother. So yes, after years of really trying with dh's family it has all been for nothing. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:14 AM Flag

do what you are going to do. Don't let them define your behavior. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:15 AM Flag