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06.14.08, 05:48 AM New York City
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Need Advice-I have a baby shower today with the in-laws. The problem is the baby is premature. She arrvied May 31st-5 weeks early and is under 4lbs. Everyone is expecting us to bring her to the baby shower today which we decided we would. I'm just afraid she's too fragile to be passed around to all the relatives not to metion the germs. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but If I let one person hold her everyone is going to want to hold her. I want to protect my baby because I think she's to fragile. What would you do? Am I being over protective? Let me know your thoughts. Thank you [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
New York City 06.14.08, 05:48 AM Flag
 

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easiest thing to do is call and ask your ped. Then do what ped says. If people ask, you say - our ped specifically said, ... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:50 AM Flag
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ITA good idea [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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actually, she can just lie and say that ped didn't want db to be passed around or out in public too much since so medically fragile. well, it isn't really a lie, since the ped most likely thinks this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:54 AM Flag
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also, I wouldn't even bring your db. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:55 AM Flag
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also, and yes, I am a little disjointed today. but, it is hard enough being a new parent and having a db born so early can be nerve wracking. trust your instincts-you know best. someone told me that when my db was born (who wasn't premature but I was an anxious mom), and it was the best advice-you do know best. gl and congrats on new db [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:57 AM Flag
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It is nerve wracking. a friend of mine said the same thing..your motherly instincts will kick in and you'll do whats best for the baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 06:00 AM Flag
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I was going to stay home with the baby and make my husband go but again I dind't want to offened the host. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:59 AM Flag
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i think people will understand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 06:00 AM Flag
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ita - your baby is still very young and needs to be looked after. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 06:09 AM Flag
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don't do that. That is crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 06:40 AM Flag
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But why would she? IF the ped says its find, its fine. There is no need to lie here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 06:39 AM Flag
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i doubt a ped would ok a 2 wk old premie going to a big family party [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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What does that have to do with lying about it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 06:56 AM Flag
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I didn't ask the ped yet. Just tried calling to see what he says. no answer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:58 AM Flag
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That is extremelyo odd. ALL docs have a service. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 06:40 AM Flag
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"Soory, the ped said not to have around so many people." Did you ask your ped? Go with your gut. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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If it was me I would take the baby ONLY if I was sure she wouldn't be handed around. Go with your gut and don't get pressured into anything you feel uncomfortable about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 06:07 AM Flag
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I wouldn't bring her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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