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06.13.08, 10:25 AM General Topics
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So sad. Dh and i just not connecting. Even when it seems there's a chance, it doesn't happen. I am just so sad about all of this. No idea where we will be in a year from now. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.13.08, 10:25 AM Flag
 

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what have you tried? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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talking. giving him space. sometimes i lose it and yell or cry. this has been oging on for a while. i so often feel like i'm barely here. today he went to therapy for the first time. i can't help but feel that it's a step toward his finally having hte balls to end things. but he never says anything about anything, so i have no way of knowing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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well, I guess it could be the beginning of the end, but then again, maybe it's the beginning of the 2 of you really communicating. Have you tried things like date nights or weekend getaways? Sounds like it may be a little beyond that right now, but if you can make a start, something like that can help you remember what drew you to him in the first place. Is he going to individ therapy or are you going to do couple's? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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individual therapy. lots of stuff going on that he wants to address and i'm happy he's finally addressing it. we are pleasant to each other. communicate well about specific things, but ultmatley i feel like he's not considerate of me at all. which i read as a reflection of how he feels about me and not bc that's how he is. we have done the date night thing. and are finally at a point where we can do it more often. lots of outside stress too. i don't know what to make of this all. when i go to therapy, he asks me abt it. and then sort of sulks if i dont' want to talk abt it. altho i often do. i didn't ask him anything. gave him his space. he says nothing. it's his right, but it still bother's me. was just a big elephant sitting in the car with us on the way home (i had to drive him there and back.... which is another longish story altho not part of our issues) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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maybe since he asked about yours, he wants you to ask about his too. Try that - gently. Maybe preface it with "if you don't want to talk about it, it's ok, but how did it go?". Maybe he is looking for an opening. In the meantime, try to remember the days when you were dating and what you liked about him then. That always helps me get through the times when I am feeling not so close to DH. GL to you. Keep working at it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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do you have any sex? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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not in a while. and this has always been one area that things have been good no matter what. last night, we were getting all into each other for the first time in a while, but then we had company etc etc. when they left, dh watched a ballgame on tv while i went to bed. i did wait up for him, but by the time the game was over, dd was up (she's sick). blah blah blah. etc. but i haven't been into sex with him for hte past couple months. last night was the first time in a while i was interested. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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