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06.13.08, 06:50 AM Newborn
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I am in a serious RUT. My job is a dead end one yet pays well. I am 38 yrs old, 1 db and have NO direction. I want to set goals BUT have no idea as to what I even want. I've been like this for years. I have depression/anxiety (taking meds) BUT I can't seem to get motivated. I hate living like this - I feel like I am just getting through each day. I love my baby sooo much and feel guilty for being so negative. Any suggestions as to what can make me do something already? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Newborn 06.13.08, 06:50 AM Flag
 

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i know how you feel. how about a hobby that you really enjoy. something you can do with and without child [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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well I started reading a lot and I truly enjoy that. It helps but not enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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hmm, totally understand that feeling. i think honestly that with a small dc, lower your expectations of your life goals moving forward, and if you don't have them yet, of creating them. you're already pretty occupied and if you have a good paying job, if you can try to just be satisfied with that and enjoy your time with dc and figure you'll get goal-full about your life in a few years, do that. i really think it's hard to think big personal picture when you have a small dc, and the stress is distracting you from what's there now. and, i also think the watched pot never boils applies here- life direction will probably come out of happy distracted state more than focusing on it. as you can see, i've been there (and maybe still am) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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and if you're enjoying reading, just do a lot of that. also remember, if you really ask people, most people don't have much direction, most people are muddling through somewhat. so, at least you're not alone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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THANK YOU - you are so right. appreciate your advice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:02 AM Flag
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Accept your job for what it is (a way to earn money). Try to think of goals around doing things with/for your dc that you will enjoy working towards. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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really depends. i think there's a difference between being in a rut and being in a funk. if you're in a funk, you need a hobby, an activity you do once a week or so (tennis? swimming? pottery?). if you are in a rut, you need to reevaluate what you want out of life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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