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06.12.08, 15:40 PM TTC
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My husband and I are ready for kids and we are currently trying to decide whether to try to conceive or adopt. I'm not even particularly sure what I want to ask, but I could use some input. I am also very concerned with the expenses of adoption because I have heard such a wide range of fees. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
TTC 06.12.08, 03:40 PM Flag
 

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Why are you considering adoption? Just curious. Very nice thing to do but you don't hear about many people considering it without ttc first. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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It has just always been something I've thought about since I was probably 17 or 18 years old. I've always liked the idea of giving a family to a child, rather than bringing another into the world. Up until recently I was only interested in adoption. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 03:48 PM Flag
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That's really cool. Good luck with whatever you decide. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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Angelina? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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i know two people who adopted domestically -- for one, it cost about $45,000 and for the other, about $30,000.... (private adoptions through attorneys) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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Mine domestic adoption was about 30,000. There is a fed tax credit that helps some (12K?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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Friends just did a domestic adoption, around 20K, black newborn. White babies are substantially more expensive. There is a hefty tax credit for adoptions, I think it's 10 or 11k. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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but for some reason, not everyone is able to get the tax credit -- my cousin couldn't -- not sure why. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 03:48 PM Flag
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well you have to pay that much in taxes to get the full amount, many people don't make enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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cousin's DH gets a $2mil bonus every year, so i'm sure he makes enough. maybe it was the kind of adoption it was... hmmm. i wonder. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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maybe they make too much? no idea. sounds like it didn't hurt them either way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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they probably don't qualify. dh earns in that range and we don't qualify for $hit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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it phases out after a certain income level -- like $180K or something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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In general, white babies are not more expensive than black babies. This is a myth. Costs are not based on supply and demand but on legal fees, birth parent expenses, etc. In some states black kids are considered special needs (the idea being they aren't adopted as quickly), so there might be a subsidy, but in most cases, unless you are paying some kind of illegal premium for a white baby, the costs are equivalent [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 04:28 PM Flag
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That is not at all the experience my friends had. They were told it was very much based on supply/demand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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Where does she live? (I couldn't respond to your response below....) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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you are talking out your a$$ on all levels. You have no idea what you are saying at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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you can get an older child through foster care and it will cost you nothing, in fact, you will get a grant [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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is anyone else not seeing more than 3 posts even though it says ten [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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weird, I see all of them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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i always wanted to adopt, but i was too curious what a baby that was half me and half dh would look like...very selfish, but ttc just seemed right for us [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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We have done both -- had 2 children ourselves and then adopted #3. Both are beautiful, magical ways to have a family. The experiences are very similar in some ways and very different in others, obviously. We adopted internationally and spent about $25K. With each bio kid we paid about $25 copayment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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We adopted both our children domestically. Total costs, all in, for each were around $20K, but that is widely variable. There are tax credits for people who don't make a lot of money and if you really don't make a lot of money, you can look into Foster-To-Adopt programs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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