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06.12.08, 13:07 PM Toddler
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my ds is obsessed with warriors, pirates, weapons of all kinds. I want to apply to friends seminary - will we be a bad fit at a quaker school? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Toddler 06.12.08, 01:07 PM Flag
 

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they are all that way. Give them anything and they will "weaponize". Go for whichever school you want... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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No they are not all that way. My five year old doesn't "weaponize" things. I have no idea why not, it is not like we have demonized guns (heck, I still shoot recreationally every once in a while) but he doesn't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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I am jealous... I don't know a boy who doesn't do it. In fact, my friend's son (they are from Greece and not our more gun-happy culture)made his sanwich into a pistol the other day... chewed himself a gun... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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Do you think years ago Native American children chewed bows and arrows into their maize bread ?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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They didn't have too - their parents were anti weapon. It's only today's society (for better or worse) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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meant to say were NOT anti weapon, sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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lol. there was a great article on this in Newsweek not so long ago. Police officers carry guns too. Not just the "bad" guys. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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I feel like I've read that there is research that says that little boys need these kind of fantasies. getting the bad guys etc.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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Yes, some of it was sited in the Newsweek article. They sort out good vs bad that way. 10,000 flies are ususally not wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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what did it say about toy guns? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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you can probably google it. I don't want to misquote. But it focused on the super hero (cowboys vs Indains gasp!) games that are so common in young males and the reason they are - the positives. Try going to the newsweek web site. I enjoyed reading it. But, it was preaching to the choir. I never limited "gun" play. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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A wise teacher once told me that children have all of these concepts - death, violence, abandonment - in their minds already and we can address them or ignore them which then leaves the dc to ponder the issues alone. The discussion came up when I mentioned that I was hesitant to read Babar to ds because of the huner that kills his mom at the beginning. She said to snap out of it and teach my child how to deal with unpleasantness... She said it's not necessarilly our society, but how we develop... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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I could not agree more. DC delt with death at age four and did extremely well. We purposely took to a memorial service at six - we talk about guns in both positive and negative light. The children bring this up - its the adults who get all weird about it, maybe because they were not taught its just the way life is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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Death I realize must be discussed and since we discuss these things and weapons and all that, why is it still a need of theirs to immitate fighting and killing ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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To sort out in their minds who is good and who is bad. I'll go see if I can find the link to the article for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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FOUND IT. Its called The Games Boys Play. Here is the link. http://www.newsweek.com/id/39387 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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thanks. -5 yo's dad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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thank you ! just printed it... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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NP: this came up in our 2nd grade class when I happened to be there. There was a "Code Blue" drill, which means intruder in the building, so the classroom teachers lock the doors. Many of the boys immediately made fake guns with their fingers. Teacher questioned them about why they felt the need to do this, since the door was locked. One boy pointed out that someone with a gun could shoot through the door. An interesting discussion ensued about how video games might be over-influencing them. Girls in the class seemed mystified by all this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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is he in school yet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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Yeah, kindergarten but that has turned him onto Capt Underpants and Junie P Jones (sp?). As I said above, I'm not an anti gun dad and we are not an anti gun house. (I grew up shooting and was in the NRA at 13. I stopped paying dues or shooting in their events years ago for political reasons.) He just has never been really into that stuff. Then again he is not the stereotypical boy in many ways. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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what does he choose to play with ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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His favorite thing lately is writing books. He'll take a stack of paper, fold them in half, then make a ten page book and staple it. He writes stories and illustrates. His books are interactive often times. Like a book about what he wants to do with a friend, or stuff like that, OR super heroes/aliens. But even the aliens and robots are gun-less. He loves to read, too. (I had a catch with his little brother the other day and #1 looked at us like we were insane.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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eesh... i've been doing something wrong over here ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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We didn't make him like this. He came this way. (I take credit for a lot of things but not this. We are just lucky.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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NP: I have a kid like that and I also like to shoot (I'm a mom, but I really like guns, I discovered sort of by accident that shooting is fun and I'm naturally good at it, though I am politically anti-NRA).. we got a daisy air rifle and DC sort of likes it, but guns are not really a part of his imaginary play, even though is friends seem sort of gun crazy. At around age 4, he pleaded a cogent case for why we should let him have a water gun, explaining that he understood the difference between a real gun and a water gun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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np: disagree. have a 5 yo ds and he has zero interest in weapons. really into playing with various stuffed animals/characters (mickey mouse, etc.) and drawing. has never even been into spiderman, superman or other superheroes. loves board games, puzzles and does tons of imaginitive play, but nothing with weapons. know several other boys same age who are really into cars and trains, but not weapons. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 03:03 PM Flag
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nothing to lose by applying. as long as you subscribe to the quaker philosophy and like the school, I wouldn't worry about not fitting in because of what you ds is into right now. interests can and do change. fwiw, just like many other nyc privates, friends is extremely difficult to get into. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 03:22 PM Flag
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