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06.12.08, 12:29 PM Toddler
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Friend just had a baby and is very into everything natural/organic. She had the perfect natural birth. I had a very complicated pregnancy and ended up with C-Section. Not sure if she realizes there is so much that factors in when you're giving birth. I did everything I thought would help me have a healthy baby. I would have loved to have a natural birth. Not sure she realizes how that comes across. It's like everyone that thinks everyone should breast feed when it doesn't work for all women. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Toddler 06.12.08, 12:29 PM Flag
 

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I'm sorry you didn't get the birth you wanted. Don't let that color your joy for your friend that she did. You want only the best for her, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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You're missing my point. I'm fine and very happy. Just It comes off like all births should be the way hers was and that those that didn't have that did something wrong. Women use die having childbirth and still do. Glad we have options now. OP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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She just had her first baby. Let her bask in the glory without judgement. Is that so hard to do for your "friend"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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and before you ask, I had every invention known to man (or woman) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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maybe she will have a really difficult baby. not that I would wish that on anyone, but it usually all evens out somehow or another. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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does she make you feel badly about having had a c sxn? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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No but I guess theres that underlying feeling of does she realize what she's saying and who she's saying it to? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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i hate to say it, but most first time mothers are kind of clueless about what they say. i had a c with my first, and I struggled. if you find yourself overly sensitive about what she is saying, find someone to help you come to terms with it. but be prepared-i had a friend lecture me on bf and nipple confusion-she who had no kids, no medical background, etc while I had ebf my 2 kids each to a yr. she had a big wakeup call when she had her kids. i try not to secretly gloat but still, just shows how humbling parenting can b [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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np yeah - and how much better I was at it before I had kids! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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is she saying things that make you think she thinks you are less of a mom? If not, you need to let it go. We all have dif experiences. If you get a healthy baby to bring home, you had a good experience IMHO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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No it's just here experience is very rare from all the friends and family I have experience with. Even those that wanted that. Hired doulas everything didn't get it. So much is out of our hands. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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All the MORE reason to celebrate it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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pretty much all of it is out of our hands from what I have seen. Crackheads have healthy babies while loving mothers have stillborns. Makes no sense. Sigh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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you'll like this: http://www.theonion.com/content/magazine/natural_childbirth_how_morally [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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It sounds to me like the person you are most angry with is yourself, for allowing all those interventions to happen and therefore not getting the birth you wanted. It also sounds like you either don't really like your friend very much or perhaps are just not able to be a good friend to her at the moment. Either way, if you cannot give her your joy, I would give her some space, at least until you deal with your own stuff. Sorry, but that's what I think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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I have a friend like that who just had a db. Her first words to me were I'm so happy my eating organically during pregnancy worked and he's healthy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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Just my two cents, but I don't think eating organically and avoiding hormones and pesticides in pregnancy is worthless. In fact, I think it's very possible that people who do these things often end up with healthier births and healthier children. Our bodies are so finely tuned. Why pretend it doesn't matter what we put into them? As if everything will work just as it should even when we're loaded up with crap? I think that's the height of hubris. A little off topic, but still. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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Let's just say... a lot of people say stupid things! They don't mean to gloat or rub it in. They may be well-meaning, but stupid things come out of their mouth! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 12.26.08, 12:21 AM Flag
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