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06.11.08, 19:19 PM General Topics
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This is heavy. I believe my younger brother is a molester. This is based on his behavior as a child, my parents took him to counseling as a teen but I'm not sure if that has done anything. I don't have any proof, but he now has a child and I'm really scared. I also have a child and my family is always saying, "Yay when you come here you can go out and relax and we'll take care of the baby!" No way am I letting him be alone with my child. I have nightmares about him harming a child. Should I say something to the family, to him? Sometimes when I call home and my parents don't call me back right away I immediatly think "he's been caught" and they're dealing with that. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.11.08, 07:19 PM Flag

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what on earth? why do you suspect your younger brother is a pedophile? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:22 PM Flag

OP: It's just something in my gut. I can't explain it. As a child he kind of predatory towards younger kids and was caught abusing at least one that was several years younger. My family got him in counseling and I've never heard about it again. At the same time, I went away to college and moved across the country, so who knows what I don't know about. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:27 PM Flag

how old was he at the time of this incident? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:37 PM Flag

wow. i wouldn't leave your child with him, but i also wouldn't call and ask. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:22 PM Flag

very odd- what do you base this on - if he's not then your feelings are really really damaging [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:25 PM Flag

OP: You're right, it is damaging but I can't shake this feeling in my gut. He's a great guy, very sweet, and my family thinks he's the greatest thing since sliced bread. At the same time I feel like he's guarded, there is a side of him no one knows. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:28 PM Flag

OP: I think the biggest thing is, my mother wants to watch my dd when I fly home. I have a gathering to go to with old friends and I really want to say to my mom, "Don't leave her alone with my brother." But I don't want her to ask why and then we get into an argument or a discussion. (He lives with my parents by the way.) [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:30 PM Flag

np: Is he old enough that he should be living on his own? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:31 PM Flag

OP: Yes, he's 23. He's seriously a slacker with no ambition. He takes odd jobs here and there but nothing substantial [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:34 PM Flag

Okay, but I was afraid you were going to say 35. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:34 PM Flag

and he has a kid? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:36 PM Flag

this sounds familiar. did you post about him before? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.12.08, 02:58 AM Flag