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06.10.08, 17:40 PM General Topics
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Had Ladies' Night at my house the other night with about 15 woman. Someone lit up a "funny cigarette" and the pregnant woman said, "Is anyone going to freak if I take one hit ?" and she proceeded to do so... Sh'e about 36 weeks. Anyway, now the phone calls are going fast and furious hither and yon and people are up in arms yet nobody said a word at the time... [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 05:40 PM Flag
 

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that's nuts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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i don't really think it's that big of a deal. the kid is already fully formed and a tiny bit of pot is not going to make that big a dif. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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yeah. i pretty much agree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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then you guys are assholes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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who are the assholes ? want to keep my insults and the inteded victims straight... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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those who said nothing and then talked behind her back. a friend would have said something then. or kept quiet after. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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gotcha ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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it's like having a glass of wine. when you are that far along i don't think it really matters. that said, smoking pot every day during your pregnancy i would think would be cause for alarm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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You need to stand up for her. Remind everyone that they had a chance to voice opinions at the time and nobody said anything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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i am saying that everyone has to make judgement calls. I sat in the sauna and ate soft cheese. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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i had a couple hits of pot and drank a glass of wine or two in my third tri. But never ate cheese or saunaed... I JUDGE YOU!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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I see your judgement and raise you a condemnation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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i will add fuel to this fire and tell you that you're a self interested snob who saganakied your child in a hot tub. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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I did not hot tub (nasty circulating germs up against the woo-woo are gross) but I did sauna and it made me glow... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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feh... hot tub, sauna... what's the difference when you're judging? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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^^ I think she's fine, but I wouldn't have done it just to avoid what's happening now... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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I agree with that. Same reason I don't have my 1/2 glass of wine with anyone except DH. Your friends sound like they are 12 yo though! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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let's not say "friends"... some are, but let's say people I know... friends and friends of friends... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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omg, who CARES? They wouldn't think twice about smoking in front of her, but they'd judge her for taking a hit. Assholes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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people care... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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that is the real kicker! it's not like she just pulled it out and started smoking. they brought it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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they condemn the preg. part, not the pot part... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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obviously, but they would have smoked right next to her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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and obviously didn't care if she breathed it in from them smoking it... what's the difference?? Very small. Anyway, I truly do not believe this is that big a deal and I think all these "friends" are serious creeps for gossiping about her. I hope she finds a new group of ladies to night out with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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excellent point. geez. i'm feeling very negatively about these women. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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ita. this is why i ditched a group of women i was hanging with. i realized that they were always talking about someone and that at some point or another i would be the one they were talking about. people need to grow up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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i go by this as well. if someone is talking about someone else, they're taling abt me too. and for whatever reason, that is one thing that seems to bother me badly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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i think the baby is probably already cooked at that point. i personally wouldn't have smoked, but each to their own. you should have said something then if you felt so strongly rather than slamming her behind her back which is pretty damn lame and bad karma. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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OP I repeat that i am not the slammer, but wanted to know what you thought about it... maybe that was my bigger error... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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you should defend her the next time and bring up the fact that they obviously didn't care if she was breathing it in. nice friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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np OP still can defend her. when these things come up, and they prob will for a bit (sounds like it's in email too?) she can gently say that everyone was doing it. she woudl have been affected by the second hand smoke anyway, so let it drop. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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thank you. I am someone who tries to stay out of the gossip (i do it here where I can hurt nobody) and I am defending her right to make choices for herself. I just was curious to see if women here were as into debating it or if it was "old hat"for you mostly NY gals [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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it's probably safer than having alcohol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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i think it did nothing harmful as we all inhale tons of grossness every day... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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i think this is horrendous, and i don't judge for anything else amongst mothers but just lay off the pot. nobody knows how it affects fetus, so she should have just left it alone. it can't be that hard. she's probably done it at other times in her pregnancy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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Ladies' Night? That must be why y'all beetches didn't get up in her face right then? Maybe a women's night [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:48 PM Flag
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is too out of the realm of your bunch. When real women hook up crazy things can happen, like living in realtime. If anyone was concerned, where were their words then? I didn't drink alcohol while pregnant and [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:52 PM Flag
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did smoke some delicious herb now and then(quit when kid arrived). I had a terrific 40 wks, was happy, healthy,mellow, strong and extremely emotionally balanced. btw we met a profoundly verbal, brilliant infant in excellent health whom has continued to develop wonderfully. If any of you hookers dissing her later were toking- you are so weak... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:57 PM Flag
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i would be more upset about "funny cigarette" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:01 AM Flag
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