UrbanBaby

06.10.08, 09:22 AM New York City
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seeing a guy i am exclusive with, however, when asked about the future he says "i can't think that far ahead". we use condoms right now and he wants me to go on BC, but i don't do very well on it. now he tells me he has been researching and wants me to have a copper IUD put in and he will come with me. WTF. i told him "an IUD is a big commitment, so for now we should stick with condoms". i then said "for someone who can't see into the future you certainly have big plans for my birth control." he denied ever saying that. WWYD. is this a situation where he is using me for sex?? its so weird [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
New York City 06.10.08, 09:22 AM Flag

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Why do you keep posting this? What are you hoping to hear [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:23 AM Flag

i posted last night late for the night crowd, and posting again for the day crowd. curious of peoples opinions. whats the big deal. its my second post [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:23 AM Flag

Not a big deal at all and I am sorry if I sounded snarky. I am genuinely curious about what you are looking for. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:24 AM Flag

no idea. just strikes me as odd and makes me feel uneasy [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:24 AM Flag

So why not trust yourself? I think you are right to feel uneasy. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:25 AM Flag

what do i do? i plan on discussing this with him but dont want to sound like a nag [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:30 AM Flag

Put the ball in his court. "An IUD is a big commitment and it seems that neither of us is ready for that right now. We can talk about a roadmap to get to that state in our relationship but right now that is not where we are." [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:32 AM Flag

I've never used roadmap in a romantic conversation. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:41 AM Flag

lol [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 10:01 AM Flag

ITA. he's shifting the burden on you without a committment [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:53 AM Flag

why do you care? why are you still on here? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:24 AM Flag

He uses condoms till you get a ring. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:23 AM Flag

interesting... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:24 AM Flag

obviously no ring is in the future [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:24 AM Flag

why do you say that? (op) [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:25 AM Flag

be happy that he's proactive with birth control. I slept with a lot of guys, and very few even asked about birth control. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:25 AM Flag

How old are you? Do you have kids? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:28 AM Flag

yes. we both have kids from previous marriages. but i would like another someday (if i ever get married again) [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:29 AM Flag

I don't know if this has changed, but IUD was not advisable unless you know you're STD-free and monogamous [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:31 AM Flag

I agree. If he's not ready to commit, you shouldn't be either. Sleeping with someone without condoms is like committing to them and all their past flings. If you do go through with it, make sure he gets tested. He sounds a bit pushy [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 10:19 AM Flag

I find SAH mind numbing and boring yet the most important thing I could do, so for me...it's the hardest. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 10:24 AM Flag

He's nuts. I would never use that thing [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 11:19 AM Flag