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06.10.08, 08:04 AM Newborn
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I told my brother about the discussions about his having 2 children with 2 different women and a pregnant fling now. He said that we just want to force him into marriage and don't understand his need to have fun until he finds the right woman. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Newborn 06.10.08, 08:04 AM Flag
 

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Wow! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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anyone taking the bait here ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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honestly, I don't even know what to say. His "need to have fun" is going to cost him an arm and a leg in child support. Tell him that condoms are cheaper. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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OP: DH told him that....actually DH went out and bought him a lot of condoms when he told us about the third pregnancy and then demonstrated how to put one on! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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I hope he didn't demonstrate on himself! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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OP: actually, and I know this sounds fake, but it did happen. DH came back with the condoms, told my brother that showing him with a banana or something wouldn't do. He took me and my brother into teh other room, dropped his pants and boxers and showed my brother how to put one on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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oh come on. I cannot believe that a 24-year-old doesn't know how to put a condom on. they show them in health class in school! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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OP: He knows how to use one....DH just wanted to make sure he knew. DH basically had had it with my brother's behavior and was doing it to make a point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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OK, now I think that this is fake. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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OP: It's not fake, trust me I wish it was. You have to realize that DH had just about had it with my brother's behavior on this and was trying to make a point. DH was basically furious about it. I think if he could have taken my brother for a vasectomy, he would have instead. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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ok, that's really weird. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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OP: I know, I know....DH was just frustrated and thought maybe something dramatic would make a point [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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honestly though - who would sleep with this guy? If I met a guy who had 3 children with 3 different women (none of who he married) - I would run as fast as I could in the other direction. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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do you think he tells them? most girls would assume a 24 yr old single guys doesn't have kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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OP: I don't know to be honest. The current girl was a fling he met at a wedding in early March and has been seeing occasionally since then....he said he didn't see it as anything with a future. So I am guessing no. I know the second motehr knew about the first kid, since she was his girlfriend when she got pregnant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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OP: I don't know who these girls are....like this current one....and why they sleep with him. Can anyone explain what would make someone do this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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tell him the only need he has is to grow the hell up and bag it. Condoms don't cost much but raising dc and paying support does. He can also pay with his life. He hasn't heard of STD's? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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My brother said he only does it without a condom after he knows the woman for a good period or time and he trusts her. The first two women he was dating for a few months, teh current is a fling, but he says that she's safe since "they know many of the same bartenders" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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^^^yeah, well that's as good as getting a note from her gynecologist! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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OP: LOL I know......my brother actually said that if he sees a girl a lot in bars or her friends in bars, or that they know the same bartenders, he knows she's a good girl and someone he wants to spend time with. He makes no sense! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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Your brother is a spoiled, immature, brat. And, by giving him $ so he can have "fun," your parents are enabling him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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Honestly - you need to remove yourself from this situation. It's sweet that as his older sister you care. But frankly, his lifestyle is toxic. I know he's young but he clearly doesn't learn from his mistakes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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OP: It's tough. I really want to help him through this and help him realize what he's done. He does see and support his kids and is a good father, but he needs to grow up. He talks about wanting to marry and settle down and have a family in a few years. Now he has 3 kids, then what, he'll have 3 more.....for 6? It's insane. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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OK - how did you know that his parents support him? I think that you are the OP responding to your own posts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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She said it yesterday. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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he really needs to grow up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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I know, I know! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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I am so confused as to why your DH is so invested in what your brother does. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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OP: He was there when my brother came over the other day to tell us about number 3 and DH was just upset by how insane the whole thing is. He thinks my brother needs to grow up and behave like a man and not a teenager like he is. My DH cares a lot about my brother and his own brothers.....it's one of the qualities I love most about DH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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I think it great & really caring. My DH would just say it is not my problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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board wh*re [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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This guy sounds horrible, he should get a vasectomy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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and the three women he's been with and has children with need brain surgery. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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