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06.09.08, 19:47 PM New York City
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dating a guy i am exclusive with, however, when asked about the future he says "i can't think that far ahead". we use condoms right now and he wants me to go on BC, but i don't do very well on it. now he tells me he has been researching and wants me to have a copper IUD put in and he will come with me. WTF. i told him "an IUD is a big commitment, so for now we should stick with condoms". i then said "for someone who can't see into the future you certainly have big plans for my birth control." he denied ever saying that. WWYD. is this a situation where he is using me for sex?? its so weird [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
New York City 06.09.08, 07:47 PM Flag
 

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He sounds very controlling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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can you elaborate? he said we can use condoms, but i am offended he is putting all this effort into researching birth control for me but can't think about our future... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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Committed couples decide birth control together, some guy who might bolt in a month or two doesn't get the right to put request a longterm BC choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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Do you have children from a previous relationship? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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yes. we both do. previous marriages [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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Do you want more children either with him or someone else? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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yes. well i am dating him because i see a future with him. otherwise i would date several people [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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I think you answered your question. He is not looking to commit to marriage and he does not want more children. Can you imagine staying with him in this environment...really? And don't think you will change his mind eventually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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can IUDs be temporary forms of BC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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OR above: It's also creepy that he wants to go with you - to ensure you are actually doing it. I guess he thinks it's too much trouble to make sure you take a pill each day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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no, i told him i will not and can not take the pill. i never have reacted well to it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 08:13 PM Flag
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But you get my point, yes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 08:13 PM Flag
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totally [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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and i think the "go with me" part is because its a procedure that they suggest someone takes you home [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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How long have you been dating? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 08:13 PM Flag
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4 months [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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Honestly, I respect the guy for saying it is too soon to think that far ahead, especially when children are involved. That said if you are in a monogamous relationship it is understandable to think about other bc options than condoms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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okay. just not sure. something about it bothers me. cant figure out what [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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np: i agree. something is strange about this. be careful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 08:30 PM Flag
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