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06.09.08, 13:23 PM General Topics
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WHY do people schedule their weddings for holiday weekends? On top of the added expense for airfare, I dread the holiday crowds at the airport. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 01:23 PM Flag
 

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well, probably so you can have a nice longer break to enjoy your visit. spoken by someone who did that for that reason. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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No one enjoys it but the bride and groom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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really? that's sad news. i think i would like to have it be on a long weekend when i already have vacation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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Do you have kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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np: I love weddings. If you feel that strongly you just shouldn't go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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I don't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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Then don't go. Really. Do you really think your presence is so imperative? You sound like a total pill and the weekend will probably be better w/o you there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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I don't feel compelled to go to weddings if the bride and groom have gone out of there way to make it inconvenient and expensive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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No one is compelling you. Don't go, but stop b*tching, would you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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OP: This wasn't me. But don't get touchy because you had a holiday weekend wedding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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I'm the one who responded. I'm with you, OP, and I'm sorry all these holiday weekend wedding moms are getting upset about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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It's cute that you must assume that anyone who disagrees with your attitude must have had a holiday weekend wedding. I didn't. I just don't understand your attitude at all. If it's such a big problem for you don't go. It's very simple and there is no whining required. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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LOL - I didn't. Just don't understand all the handwaving. Go or don't go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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do you mean handwringing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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agree [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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Hope your wedding was lovely, but I think that logic is flawed. I can't believe it's going to be $1100 a ticket (it's $650 the following weekend). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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Don't go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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Not an option - SIL's wedding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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If it's close family you have to suck it up, sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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If you're talking about 4th of July I don't feel sorry for you at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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Huh? It's for Labor Day weekend. When SIL had said end of August a few months ago, I didn't realize she mean Labor Day weekend. We just got the Save the Date card. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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Yup, Brother wedding is Labor Day w;end at a resort. 3 night stay minimum and not a single event other than the ceremony and reception... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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According to the women on here, you should be excited to get to spend your holiday at the location of your brother's choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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...and isolated in some 1 horse beach town for 3 days at great expense with 2 kids. Thanks bro for helping me determine my only vacation ALL YEAR [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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Did you run your own wedding plans by him to see if they suited his needs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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They don't have a deal at the hotel for wedding people or anyting? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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on no, that is too "bourgeois" for my brother. Its gotta be "real" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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OP: See my itinerary below and be grateful about the activities. But sucks to waste so much money on the hotel, sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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ugh -- all your guests hated it. honestly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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Same here, but I did it over Labor Day and the flights weren't more expensive. At the time we live in a small town so the flights were always pretty pricy. We only had family though, so it was like a big reunion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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Very popular for Jewish weddings since they can't happen on Saturdays [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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I'm with you. I hate that. It's just kind of selfish IMO. I finally get a nice long weekend and I have to spend it going to a wedding with lots of events and people I don't know bc bride and groom want this whole weekend-long grandiose thing. I'd rather not, honestly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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Then don't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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I'm with you -- I don't know why these women think it's so much fun to waste your long weekend with wedding obligations. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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I guess it's part of the Princess Syndrome. I can't relate and thankfully I'm not friends with any more princesses (I shed most of them over the years) so I have only had to do this a couple of times. But I sure did resent it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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OP: Welcome dinner, rehearsal dinner, hair and makeup, wedding itself, then a brunch the following day. All with two kids under 5. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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Wow. It all makes me so glad I eloped. And that my friends are all married off. Hang in there. Can you hire a babysitter at the hotel or something? Ugh! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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We're looking into it. They are having a "separate" reception for the kids, which will have caregivers. Maybe I can get one of them for earlier in the day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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What about your DH? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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He's in the wedding party (it's his sister). In addition to everything else, they are having a "groomsmen's golf day" on Friday. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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I'm with you. I hate that people think this stuff is fun. It's not, it's an obligation. And no, I don't want to spend my precious vacation in Oakland. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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Hey, that's a good idea, the separate reception for kids with caregivers, I mean. Then you will be able to relax a little and perhaps even have a drink... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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NP: Right. And and that's not high maintenance at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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It is, but even this was all drama. DH's other sister FLIPPED when she heard they weren't inviting kids to the wedding, even though they live locally. So now we are stuck shlepping the kids across the country because once SIL decided on the kid's party they HAD to come. DH's family is all ultimatums, all the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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We did ours in Oct so it was that weekend that some people get and others dont. The wedding was in St. Thomas so it was a destination wedding and we thought some might want to spend the extra time there. We also worked very very closely with an airline and got real discounts for people. But we have a wedding to go to in Canada during their high season and we are flying into Buffalo and driving and extra two hours to save money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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Canada has a high season? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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I HATE holiday weekend weddings. It is such an imposition on the guests. I'm always amazed that couples continue to delude themselves that it's a treat for their guests. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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The best is the weddings the Saturday after Thanksgiving. I was in one of those. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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No way! Talk about screwing the guests. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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Friends of mine did this out of concern for the large family that was already coming to town for Thanksgiving. In that case, family was most important. You know, it's not always about you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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And it's not always a day when everyone wants to do whatever Princess wants, no matter how absurd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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I just went to one last Thanksgiving. The bride and groom thought, "Well, everyone will have it off." Exactly, the ENTIRE COUNTRY will have it off as it is the busiest travel holiday of the year. Tickets which would have normally cost $250 each were close to $500 each. It was ridiculous as both the bride and grooms families had to fly in for this, many from across the country, and the entire weekend was planned, Thanksgiving dinner, city tour, rehearsal dinner, wedding, reception, after-reception reception, and breakfast. The bride's sister had just had a baby, so she had to tote around a one month old the entire time. It was completely obnoxious. Everyone says that it was just one day, well it was more like five days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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We had our wedding on a holiday weekend (Columbus Day) specifically to accommodate our guests--this way no one had to take a day off work to get here. And, of course, they were free not to come of it was an issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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Hey OP--Grow up, why don't you. If it's that much of a problem, don't go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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Hey OR - If we could skip it without alienating all of DH's family, we would. But the extra $2k in airfare alone is hard for us, and the last time I tried to fly on Labor Day weekend, the overbookings and delays were atrocious. It's going to be really hard with the kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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Holiday weddings raise a (by-definition) self-centered event that the guests feel great about to a level of selfish that is awful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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agree. holiday weekend weddings and destination weddings are the two most self-centered inconsiderate things you can do to your friends & family. combining the two is even worse! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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ITA, last year my bf had her wedding on fathers day. Lame my dh was so pissed. I love weddings but not on or around holidays. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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Oh, that would suck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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what a bitch [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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OP: What did you have to do to make it up to DH? It would be like DH saying he was going golfing on Mother's Day, you know? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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I let him drink and i was the sober driver and he took the next day off to golf. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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ok this is over the top. Now we include hallmark holidays in this too? Besides, did she really have the wedding on a Sunday? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 04:08 PM Flag
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yeah she did, lame i know. It was a beautiful wedding at a vineyard but come on, you cant drink to much you have to work the next day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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I like it. I find it too hard to travel to a weekend wedding on a two day weekend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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