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06.09.08, 10:22 AM New York City
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nanny always refers to dd as "my baby girl" bugs the hell out of me - anyone btdt? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
New York City 06.09.08, 10:22 AM Flag
 

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my nanny does the same thing!and yes, it bugs me but I let it go [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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guilt? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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b&tch [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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i wasn't being snarky. my nanny did it and when i thought about it, i realized i felt guilty [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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op - maybe you are right - I feel a little "replaced" db goes nuts for nanny - I know I should love it but it hurts... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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I call the place I work, "my firm." I wonder if the partners feel the same way you do. no, seriously, she is trying to tell you that she is emotionally invested in the well-being of your child. she is not trying to claim to be the mom. relax. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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op - i know but i dont love the nanny so i think that is why it bugs me more [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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How long has she been with you? I really liked my nanny at first, but now (after almost 2 years) I love her. and my kids love her. It's definitely a relationship that evolves. But I've also fired two nannies who didn't work out. It's very hard. good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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np- ita. My dd's babysitter became family. I never thought of her as 'hired help' but more like an aunt or good friend. My dd loves her, we do too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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op - why did the nannies not work out, here is my situation - nanny is GREAT with db - have a nannycam so we know, comments from neighbors and doormen. But I feel like she and I dont communicate well - not because she doesnt listen to me, she does what I ask her to do but it is kinda like a one way street - when I ask about their day she says "db was in a great mood" really have to prod for any further info - like db rolled over etc... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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Why do you need more info if you can watch it on tape? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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op - they spend alot of time of playdates etc - and I dont really watch the tapes anymore that was just for the first few weeks before I knew her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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Then just ask more specific questions. Or get a notebook and have her write the basics: ate lunch- finished most of peas, didn't touch the cheese, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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definitely stick with your nanny. she sounds wonderful. some suggestions are: (1) call during the day rather than ask at the end of the day; (2) ask specific questions rather than about the day generally; and (3) tell her that you love to hear details because you miss db during the day and it makes you feel more involved. good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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ita- great ideas [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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np - I think expect too much [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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Does she know you have a nanny cam? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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nope [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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why do you leave your kid with smoeone you don't love? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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ita. I think it's sweet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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me too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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I think of it as more love for my dd. Grandma can call her "my little girl", I don't mind. She knows who her mommy is [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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is she haitian- if so this is a very common term of endearment [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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nope from guyana [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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Sort of off topic but, does anyone give their nanny a camera and ask them to snap shots of cute things? I never see a nanny do this and I know as a SAHM I always have my camera with me to capture moments. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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op - my nanny does [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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you're way too critical of your nanny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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they do this at my dc's day care and then post the photos on a private snapfish site [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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Would it be more appealing if she called her "little girl who helps me pay the rent and eat?" You're searching for something to be irritated about. It's passive aggressive. I suspect dd likes her back a lot too and you're torn. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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mine does this too. I can see why this irks you but honestly, would it be better any other way? I'm happy to have a nanny who so obviously adores my DD. And in the end, don't worry, there is only one mommy and believe me, your child knows who it is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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ita. don't be threatened by the term of endearment. you are the mother, end of story [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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