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06.09.08, 08:48 AM General Topics
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I have to pay $150 to split the room's cost for a bachelorette party that I didn't go to because my husband was sick and couldn't watch db? Is this normal? One other bridesmaid paid for half the cost of the room and the other ones contributed to the cost of the bride's (my 1st cousin) spa treatments. If I went to the bachelorette I would have had to pay for gas to drive there and cost of food for myself for Sat. night and Sun. day. Is this normal? I didn't have a bachelorette party. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 08:48 AM Flag
 

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an individual hotel room, or the party room? if it was a group party room, i can see paying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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It was the room everyone stayed in. I couldn't go to the event, of course. Other people paid for the cost of spa treatments I guess. I have lived a sheltered life I guess since I didn't know about this option for a bachelorette & I had a horrible weekend because DH is sick. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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it's not all about you. sucks but you wold have paid even more if you were there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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Yes. BUT is this THE NORM, people????!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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yes!!! that's why we're all answering this way [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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are you reading the replies? yes, this is the norm. surprising that you're having such trouble understanding it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:06 AM Flag
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Because sadly, I am very poor right now. The bridesmaid's dress alone will cost me more than $200 and [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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yes that sucks but that is what you get for being a bridesmaid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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THIS IS THE NORM!!!! HOW MANY TIMES DO WE HAVE TO TELL YOU THAT THIS IS WHAT HAPPENS MORON! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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Might I ask you why you are calling me a moron? Did you have some issue with either being a bride or a bridesmaid? I didn't grow up knowing this. My parents did not have this type of wedding. Please have just some slight empathy. Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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np: Empathy for you wanting to rip off the other bridesmaids? Nuh-uh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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You are lame. Were you on the Bridezilla show, I think I saw you. BTW: not OP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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No, you are lame. OP had the option to say "no" when invited. I think these bachelorette parties are stupid. But she can't stick the others with the cost after committing to it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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itttta. and OR you are ot lame [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:38 AM Flag
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^not [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:51 AM Flag
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what? i grew up with immigrant chinese families who didn't have bachlorette parties. even I KNOW that this is what you do. It's called "social graces," you moron [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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OP - YOU KNOW WHAT - I know that it's social graces and I feel that I was grateful to get people go GO to my wedding at all. I just need to tell DH that it is the NORM, because he's really FREAKING out. I've lost a few friends because he didn't feel we had money for a shower, etc. etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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Also, our only db is just under 1 years old so we are not used to being so poor from daycare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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your friends purchased presents for your wedding and shower. you can buy cheaper presents if need be. you can also say "no thanks" to a bachlorette party. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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yes it's normal. everyone contributes and you bowed out last minute. it's your obligation to pay [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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Believe me, I would have gone. DH was being horrible because he was sick (chronic ear infection -- 2 ER visits ... etc.) and wouldn't watch db for even Sunday at the least. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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your dh sounds like an infant [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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i agree with this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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i'm not saying that you are bad for not going, but since you said yes, the organizer worked out the cost for everyone. this happens all the time. no biggie [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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am so sheltered that I didn't know all of this. I paid $500 for my wedding dress in 2004. (Wedding on the East Coast.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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the hotel doesn't care that your husband couldn't watch the kids -- the room still cost the same. why should everyon else pay more just because you bailed (regardless of reason)? the room was booked with the assumption of everyone paying the agreed-upon amount [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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You have to pay. But I am SO glad my BIL is the last person we know to get married. I'm so tired of wasting money on this kind of shit. Soon to be SIL is having a bridal shower AND a bachelorette party. DH is the best man, and they are going fishing for the weekend - I told DH not to even tell me how much it will cost. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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It seems a little childish and forced, just mho. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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I agree. Lately I say no to these events. But can't do that with BIL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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I think that is lame, I pulled out 1 week in advance and I didn't pay anything. Give me a break people she couldn't go, so don't make her pay as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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I think if an event is too expensive, then you can say no thank you. Once you agree to attend, then you are on board for your share of the expenses even if your plans force you to cancel at the last minute. I will say, I think that when people plan showers & bachelorette parties, they are often inconsiderate of those who may wish to participate and are on a different budget. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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