UrbanBaby

06.07.08, 19:03 PM General Topics
12 replies

How would you handle this? My 6 yo ds has become good friends with one of his classmates - she's the sweetest little 6 1/2 yo little girl and we love having her over but the kid's playdates tend to go way over time-wise which can be hard because my ds needs some down time and today, for instance, he didn't have any because he went from soccer to an unexpected quicky playdate with a friend & neighbor to a planned movie playdate with this little girl. It gets hard because our family starts making plans for dinner, bath and bedtime and this little girl's mom STILL hasn't picked her up! And when I try to call her mom, I tend to get her voice mail. And then like an hour or so later she'll call back - and by the time she comes to pick her dd up, MY ds is cooked, stick a fork in him, OVER DONE. Sorry so long but how would you handle this, in the future? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:03 PM Flag

Dear UrbanBaby community,

Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

If you have any questions or concerns, you can email us at urbanbaby-support@cbsinteractive.com.

Thanks so much,

UrbanBaby Support

Don't you just ask her to pick up dd by a certain time? And she doesn't? That's weird. She's taking advantage. I would just be clear that you have plans for TK time, I guess. [ Reply | More

]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:07 PM Flag

OP: well, I think part of it is cultural - they're Latin and just not as hung up about time as we are. The mom will say something like, "so around 5 o'clock, then?, ok - give me a call - I'll be around ..." and then I'll give her a call at 5, get her voice mail and leave her a message saying that my ds is beginning to fade so why doesn't she come pick her dd up now ... and then she'll call back an hour or so later, as her dd is saying she's hungry and wants dinner, and THEN she'll finally come pick her dd up around 6:30 or so. This has happened every time the kids play together at our home. [ Reply | More

]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:10 PM Flag

Then say, you HAVE to pick her up at 5 pm - NO later. [ Reply | More

]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:11 PM Flag

don't be a doormat. Say no to the 3rd playdate in a day or say, you have to pick her up by 4 - so the playdate is over then. [ Reply | More

]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:07 PM Flag

"could you please pick up doreen by 5 today? we have plans" [ Reply | More

]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:08 PM Flag

OP: BTDT ... the other week dh and I had anniversary dinner plans and I was clear on the time I needed her to pick her dd up. She ended up being over an hour late. [ Reply | More

]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:11 PM Flag

then I guess I would stop having playdates with the little girl. Explain to her mom why. I still think she's taking advantage, Latin or not. [ Reply | More

]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:12 PM Flag

OP: perhaps - but this mom is a very hard working single parent ... she's in real estate and can have a crazy schedule - thus, the reason why I get her voice mail so often. [ Reply | More

]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:15 PM Flag

I'm a hardworking single parent too. That only gives you so much of an out. You are being nice about it, but you can't have open-ended playdates, so.... [ Reply | More

]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:20 PM Flag

Next time say - " hmmm...we're really not free for a playdate unless you can be 100% sure you can be here by 5 pm to get her because I have plans." If it happens again, no more playdates at your apartment [ Reply | More

]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:13 PM Flag

^if it happens then , take the girl and ds to an inconvenieint place and have her pick her dd up there!!! [ Reply | More

]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:16 PM Flag

she is using you. you either have to decide to suck it up, or stop the playdates. [ Reply | More

]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:37 PM Flag