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06.07.08, 08:35 AM General Topics
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dh is habitually late for work/meetings. he is in a leadership position and i think this sets a bad example and is detrimental to his success. he doesn't think it's a big deal. how can i get him to be more responsible? or am i making too big a deal out of this? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 08:35 AM Flag

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Are you his manager/agent or his wife?!?! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:36 AM Flag

i take it you think i should mind my own business? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:38 AM Flag

Just be careful. There is only so much you can do and you want to make sure your relationship with dh is strong. Have you asked him about it? Like, "Is there some reason why you are always late?" Maybe he doesn't like his job? BTW, is he late for personal/family stuff too? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:39 AM Flag

point taken. he is generally late for most things (just like his parents). [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:41 AM Flag

Ah, he's a late person...I know those people (as an "always early person"). You might want to ask him what he thinks about his late-ness, but ask because you are curious, not because you are trying to fix him. BTW, you can not fix men--especially if this is "in his genes":) [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:42 AM Flag

It's actually very passive aggressive behavior.... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.07.08, 09:07 AM Flag

That is making a lot of assumptions and assuming intent behind his actions. I think you need to talk with him about it...It is not just one thing he is late for. If this is really a p-a behavior, he would be late for selective things. But he's late for everything. Sounds like poor time management skills. Does he distract easily or get caught up in activities? Why is he late? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.07.08, 09:15 AM Flag

True, he is not selective about what he's late for -- can range from things he dislikes to things he hates. I think he's tends to run late b/c he simply does not think/plan ahead. Doesn't consider consequence of staying up late the night before an early meeting, etc. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.07.08, 09:37 AM Flag

lol, i meant ranges from things he likes/dislikes [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.07.08, 09:38 AM Flag

Yeap. Just a poor planner, but you need to go forward gingerly if you want to change his behavior. You don't want to be a nag. Have you tried moving his watch/clock ahead a few minutes? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.07.08, 09:40 AM Flag

I try not to nag -- i realize it's not a big deal for him (but is for me since i was raised to always be on time -- erring to be early rather than late) He's not very responsive to the alarm clock at all. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.07.08, 09:42 AM Flag

My dh is a late sleeper. I've found that he'll get up if I open the shade, turn on lights/music, and "start the day" in a loud way. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.07.08, 09:44 AM Flag

adhd? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.07.08, 09:43 AM Flag

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General Topics 06.07.08, 09:44 AM Flag

How late is he (normally)? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.07.08, 09:49 AM Flag