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06.07.08, 05:05 AM General Topics
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What are ways a shy teen can develop confidence at her last year of sleepaway camp? She's such a late bloomer that it's difficult for her at an all-girls' school, where there's lots of competition and everything feels like a race. I'd like to give her some well-chosen words before she gets on the bus to go up to Maine but at this point, I've run out of words - any suggestions? She's such a great young woman but she's often unhappy. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 05:05 AM Flag
 

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Does she want to go to sleepaway camp? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 05:09 AM Flag
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of course not. annoying nyc moms ship off their kids because they believe that in general it is good for them. it is weird, and it doesn't seem to matter whether the kid wants it or not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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Poor kid. Sounds like the school and camp are not great for her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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i'd rethink your strategy for her school and her camp. seriously. if her mom can't protect her and put her into situations that make her happy and confident, I hope at least you have a good therapist for helping her deal with these stressors. I understand you can't protect your kids all the time, but I'd find other ways to entertain her that draw her out instead of hoping she blooms in stressful competitive situations [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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OP - if you have a template for protecting kids and putting them into situations that make them happy and confident, please publish it here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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it starts with getting involved earlier before it becomes a problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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does she even want to be at this school or camp or is it you who wants here there? anser that question first [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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everyone faces tough situations-parents can't protect kids all the time but there is a fine line between having a stressful situation here and there vs everything is stressful for your kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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Let me guess. Your dd goes to Brearley? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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No - one of the smaller girls' schools. In Lower school, it seemed cozy and nurturing. But in Middle and Upper, things changed. It's claustrophobic, but the academics are so good and dd is doing so well that it would be a mistake to move her (not that there's any place better where she could go). The issue we have is social - some kids just get buried socially - it could be due to something they said or someone "said" they said, and it escalates until one's reputation is damaged or destroyed as only adolescent girls can do it. So camp is a breather, and a time to blossom, hopefully. That's why I asked for advice in the beginning of the thread. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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How about Coed? I think this kind of thing happens a bit less at coeds bec of boys. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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np - ITA. Or maybe a larger school, even a public HS. But perhaps she's too old for a new school. As for camp, has she ever gone to a sleepaway camp? Is this a new camp or one she's been going to? How old is she anyway? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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Just curious: Which are the smaller SS girls schools? Smaller than B, I mean. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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