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06.06.08, 19:18 PM General Topics
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How do you teach the difference between tattling, betraying a confidence, and telling what should be told to a primary school kid? Child A told child B and C that teacher was an a$$---. Child B told the teacher. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 07:18 PM Flag
 

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how old are the kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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9 years old [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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A 9yo would have had the intent to get the kid who said it in trouble. That's not right [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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I say to my almost 7yo DD: "you can have secrets, but the secrets can't be about something that's hurting your friends or other people." Here I'm thinking of the future when girls know their friends are vomiting up food to stay skinny and what not. Another thing I say is "never pass along anything someone else said bad about someone else." Which is the answer in your case. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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How old? Doesn't sound like tattling or betraying a confidence to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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^^can't reply to you b/c of bug, but that is totally tattling and betraying a confidence. there is no reason to say that to a teacher unless you want to get A in trouble. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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depends on age. 9 yos, yes, I can see that. I thought we were talking about 5 yos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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OP: having trouble replying also, but then this is the new and improved ub.... I believe it's tattling also, under the circumstances. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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I read an article recently that said most kids lie, and it said one reason is the mixed messages they get -- "don't lie, honesty is good" vs "don't tattle, white lies are ok" etc. I decided I'm ok with tattling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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so it's okay to repeat something said in confidence for the sole purpose of getting someone in trouble? sorry, i think tattlers take pleasure in seeing others get punished. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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so your kid go in trouble for bad mouthing the teacher? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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no. my kids are little. I just feel for this kid. you never said anything to a friend that shouldn't be repeated? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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What kid is it? And what happened to the child? Where was this said? I don't know enough about this situation to judge what happened. If Child A is talking smack about the teacher in the hallways at school, then I think Child A is the problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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what would be gained by telling teacher this no matter where it was said? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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Bc the child knows that you're not supposed to name call or disrespect your teachers? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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can't reply below but he was in a private conversation and did not name call or disrespect his teacher. He expressed his opinion (right or wrong) to his friend and trusted the conversation would remain private. Telling teacher was a betrayal on part of child B. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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What happened to your child? The school punished or called you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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I am not OP. just stating my opinion of the situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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I am OP, and you stated it correctly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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neither, mother of child B called to tell me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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To let you know that she thought her ds had tattled or bc she thought your child had done something wrong? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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it was one comment, one time, it's not chronic. there's a difference between venting frustration to a dear friend and spreading malicious rumors. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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she is not OP, I am, and yes my child got in trouble. but this was said to his bf of 5 years and he was shocked that his friend repeated his statement. He's really bummed and it's shaken his confidence way more than he would have been upset about being caught cursing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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don't lie and don't tattle are not the same things [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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We say, tell the teacher is someone is getting hurt - also say - try to work it out with the child if its a conflict between you and someone else and if you have tried everything, ask the teacher for help - And add, if you find children doing things that might very well get them in trouble, go somewhere else [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 04:35 AM Flag
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