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06.05.08, 22:34 PM General Topics
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WWYD? Dh had an emotional affair last year that i discovered. I found an email today from a woman who wrote"enjoyed our talks as usual, you have a way of making sense out of a complex situation and always make me feel better". I asked him about it and he got defensive and he said" she's the secretary of my client and i hat with her once in a while and she lives in Washington. I feel sick and i am sure we will have problems about this. How do i handle this? tia [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.05.08, 10:34 PM Flag
 

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What's the problem? Give him space. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 11:31 PM Flag
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Seriously? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 06:08 AM Flag
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Could be the woman is overdramatizing it and the relationshuip is meaningless to him ... I would take a step back and ask if he is stil in contact with her before reacting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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are you kidding? this email would scare me too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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I think you should keep an eye on him, BUT you have to give him space. Also, be as perfect as a wife as you can. He may seriously think before he acts if you are the most wonderful thing in his life! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 11:45 PM Flag
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what the hell? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 03:48 AM Flag
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Are you serious. You think she needs to be perfect to earn his faithfullness? Absolutely not. You need to communicate with hiim about your feelings and be yourself. Don't try to please him just to make him happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 06:03 AM Flag
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Give him space!?! Would her husband appreciate if she was having deep emotional conversations with other men? If so, he is not normal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 06:08 AM Flag
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Where did you find the e-mail? Were you snooping? That e-mail would bug the bejeezus out of me -- he's obviously very solicitous of this woman's emotional well-being. Does he treat you the same way? I think that the advice to be a "perfect wife" is atrocious. You are who you are and neither you nor anyone else is perfect. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 01:45 AM Flag
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Apologies for being dumb, but what is an emotional affair? Does that mean no sex? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 06:05 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 06:09 AM Flag
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it means melodramatic [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 06:24 AM Flag
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then i'm guilty of having some emotional affairs myself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 06:25 AM Flag
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how do you know that he never had sex with her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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If this were between him and an old college friend you wouldn't think twice, right? What is the big deal? I'm a dh (for perspective) and I have honest and frank conversations with women at work. I could imagine getting an email like this and I have never been unfaithful to my wife and I never would. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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but it's not a communication w/ an old pal -- it's a virtual stranger. that does change things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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I don't know his business or how much time he spends dealing with the client but if he is an easy talker, I don't think this needs to bea big deal. But you know him better than I. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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How did you find out about the prior affair? My dh has had one going on and I am now a nervous, jealous wreck. I'm also divorcing him because he refuses to acknowledge it as an affair, can't give it up, etc. The woman is a total player and she's wormed her way into our lives, etc. If I were you I'd look around for options- he's at the very least ignoring the past- not a good sign imho. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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