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06.05.08, 09:28 AM General Topics
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HELP!! I need some ideas on how to make db of 10months sleep through the night.. i give her warm bath with j&j , she seems to wake up at 2 and stay up til 6, and i can tell shes sleeping at sitters . i look like a zombie - any suggestions? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.05.08, 09:28 AM Flag
 

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is she jsut awake, or awake and hungry, awake and yelling, what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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shell sleep til usually 2 , drink a bottle and is up and wants to play, sat in dark room holding her til 4 am this morn :( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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what if you put her back in cruib? or let dad do it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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shes cries but doesnt sleep [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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you need to do some kind fo sleep training. CIO if you are cool with it, something more mild if you aren't. does she go in teh crib awake at bedtime? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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no , i put her in when shes sleeping because shell scream when shes in the crib to sleep , has been like this since newborn! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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ok, you need to do some sleep trianing and you need to start with bedtime, this baby does not know how to fall asleep on her own. if you don't wantCIO, get the Pantley book. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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at 10months of age they are not expected to do that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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i'm no CIO fan but i thinkits not unusual for a 10 month old to go to sleepon ehr own and to sleep through (which are sort of the same skill). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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you need sleep training big-time: read Ferber, Weissbluth, Pantley, then pick one and do it SOON - it only gets harder [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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eh, no. GIve it another 6-9 months and is going to get so much easier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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and deprive her db of sleep she needs for another 6-9 mo b/c SHE (i.e., you) can not stand crying? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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what are you talking about? the kid is not going to be deprived of sleep. Every human being wakes up at night but goes back to sleep within moments. It doesn't make a difference if the kid is able to self-soothe or you help him going back to sleep. Forcing a child to self-soothe as soon as possible if just for the parents' advantage. The kid couldn't care less. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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cio [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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TOTALLY let her cry it out. Even if it's for what seems like a really long time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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op: will try this tonight. she wakes for the bottle after drinking it she thinks its play time. im soo worn out already [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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she doesn't need to eat at night at this point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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*yawn* and you know this how? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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this is a mistake. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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if someone would feed me, and hold me for 4 hours I'd probably stay awake too. You've conditioned her that this is what you do at night. Stop feeding her, 10 mo old doesnt need to eat in the middle of the night. CIO or some version of Ferber and stop the insanity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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does it ever get better, after letting her cry it out , would she sleep normal daily afterwards ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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I'm pretty sure it will - seriously, read Ferber. Will make a huge difference in your life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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we did cio for 5.5 mo db (he was waking every hour before; we co-slept), he's now 7mos, and sleeps from 7:30p-6:30a every night, stirs in the middle of night, but goes back to sleep. hated the idea of cio, but couldn't do it anymore - we were both tired and exhausted before we did it! although his naps now are a different story. is your dd sleeping too much during the day? or maybe not enough? how is she during the day? happy? miserable? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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shes really happy all the time and although iveexplained to the babysitter not to let her nap after 3 if possible shes still waking up at night doing this , so shes got to be sleeping somewhere! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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The napping isn't your problem..sleep begets sleep. Both of mine had late naps and still slep throught the night...one needed sleep training at 7.5 mos and one slept through on her own at 6 weeks. Good Luck. What you have going on is pure torture....sleep deprivation is used for torture and brain washing. I strongly, strongly suggest CIO for the middle of the night (you can still put her in bed asleep if you like ,at this point) Don't go in, just let her cry. If you go in , you teach her that if she cries for 20 minutes you come fetch her. So......stay in your bed. Five days, you and she will be much happier! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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Ferber's book really helped me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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im going to look into it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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Try keeping her up a little later, when she wakes up at 2 feed her and put her right back down, she will eventually get used to the schedule, it takes time but keep with a consistant schedule and it will get better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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my friends think im crazy but i keep her up til 11 -1130 to sleep all night and she still does this!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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what time do you give her the bath? what I did in the early stages was bath, bottle in rocker with no lights, no tv, 20 minutes later bed, every night. It sets the stage for the baby. Same thing every night. It is hard but i swear it works. Also does she have a favorite toy or blanket make it part of the night time ritual it is a sense of comfort. My dd has a stuffed kitty. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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thank you sound good im going to try this , i work so i enter the house about 7 30 what time wud be a good time to start?-sorry new mom and no fam to help with this:( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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I would have some play time with dc and then get the bath started around 8:15 or so. give 15 minutes for bath, dress and bottle then make a ritual of some sort, we have pictures up on dd wall we say goodnight to some of her pictures give the kitty and lay her down. Depending on how much time you want to spend with her before bed depends on the order, but i wouldn't do the bath after 8:30pm. it will be a que that it is time to start getting ready for bed. Sorry long winded. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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no ilove it thank you, its giving me a sort of guideline im clueless on getting aboard with , i appreciate this soo much thank you again, ill post tommrw to let you know how it goes tonight! itll take work daily but im up for it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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good luck, i will keep an eye out for you to see how it is going. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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Ignore all these pro-CIOers. There are other ways to get your kid sleep better at night without letting him cry. For starters Pantley's No Cry Sleep Solutions book. She's got plenty ideas. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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i let her do that and the poor thing was red and tears i dont have her get upset like that :( often [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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i'm the mom w/5.5mo db above; my baby was post-colic and would not soothe to sleep except for breastfeeding (nothing else worked - rocking, singing, patting, etc) so cio unfortunately worked for us... i hate to say we did it, but we did. if db is able to be soothed to sleep with different ways (common fussy babies in weissbluth language), then i think pantley would def help (i'd read the book).. the only thing i did not like was that she herself had a 12mo who was waking every hr! i didn't really want to take advice from someone whose kid woke up 6 times a night at 1 yr of age. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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waking up that often at that age is very normal for non-CIOed children. Nothing wrong with that. It just shows that the authors understands what she's doing and keeps it consistent. Yes, it can take up to two years for a child to self-soothe to sleep at night. So what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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np: well, it's not a great track record [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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no, it isn't normal....mom of breast fed non CIO kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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all my three kids did not sleep through at 10 months. maybe it is genetic. (np) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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i hear ya we share the bedroom with db , so the crying is right in our ears, im praying for some sleep sometime soon, im dragging myself to work daily and fighting with dh at night- frustrating [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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it is all temporary. Soon your kid will sleep through like a rock and you have to find strategies to get her out of bed early enough in the morning for school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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thats my fear shell do poor in school if this keeps happening i believe keeping the schedule is going to be the way out of this. it is going to be hard as my eyes at this moment are rollig to the back of my head, i been through this since january uggh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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lol, that remark has never helped anyone who's 4 mo old has stopped sleeping [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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nah. I keep telling me exactly that now with an infant (who wakes 3 times a night), a toddler who just started to sleep through predictably (20 months old) and a preschooler who just does not want to get out of bed in the morning. I know it will get better (or rather different). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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I'm glad it helps you - it made me want to strangle someone when I was at that point :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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thats how i feel head to head with dh , and at my job i have to write and be in meetings all day so indeed this is torture for me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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aw, hon, please, do yourself a favor...you willbe a better wife, mother and worker if you sleep train. Seriously...3-5 days max for CIO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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Give up, surrender. She will sleep when she's ready to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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why should this woman be sleep deprived when 3-5 days would make every on happier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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because some of us are rather sleep deprived (and get used to it, btw) than make our kids cry for no good reason [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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