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06.03.08, 09:09 AM Newborn
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How long does CIO take with a 10 month old? My ds is the most stubborn little bugger. Has been from birth. We've been at it consistently for 2 weeks and it doesn't seem to be improving. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Newborn 06.03.08, 09:09 AM Flag
 

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you must be doing it wrong. try this. put db to bed. go back in, every 5 minutes, talk, soothe, pat, but dont pick up. first night it will be an hour plus, by fourth night should go to bed on own. if he wakes a night, do you feed? either way, do same thing for night wakings, every five mins go in. this worked great for us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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I'll go in if he's been hysterical for a long time, but for the most part we're doing more of the Weissbluth technique than Ferber. It gets better (started at 2 hours and got down to 12 minutes) but then the next night it's back to 45 min then back to 2 hours! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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I should add that I follow the rules when I go in - never pick him up, just pat and shush. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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I dont know Weissbluth, and I think Ferber has successively longer intervals. Use the same 5 minute interval every time. Try it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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Weissbluth basically says that it is easier in the end not to go back in at all. So we'll let him go pretty long without checking on him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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That is disgusting - please google weisenbluth... 2 weeks?! STOP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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NP: You don't know anything. OP, go with what works. If he gets more hysterical when you go in or if it keeps him more awake, then it's cold turkey. Otherwise, a graduated method (aka Ferber) is a little more sane. Also, although Weissbluth doesn't talk about it, teething messes with sleeping until about 18 months. There will be good and bad nights. The main thing is to be consistent with sleep time rituals and timing. Other than that, cold turkey, Ferber, sit in the room until he's asleep -- it's all good. (Mother of two here.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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what works in regard to you getting sleep or what works to make a happy baby [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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WRONG, WRONG, WRONG. What works for a baby is not always pleasant for a parent. Remember that these are all phases and in the long run of a life - they are short phases. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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They aren't separate things, nimrod. First of all, a well-rested baby is a happy baby. Second, constantly going in "to reassure the baby" is really about you, not the baby. Third, a well-rested parent is a better parent. Sleep-deprived martyrs aren't exactly the best caretakers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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I'm 'disgusting' poster and also have 2 kids. I do know about weisenbluth. While some things, like ferber, may not be for me - weisenbluth is just cruel. What this mom is doing is not right either. It's been 2 weeks and the baby is only 10mo old. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:38 AM Flag
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If you really knew, then you would know how to spell his name correctly. If you haven't read the book, then you are talking out your butt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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you have to be kidding... moving on. I've read about him online, on ub and spoken to other parents about the book. No, I have not read the actual book but that isn't necessary. I know about Ferber and know it's not for me without reading the actual book. I also know about Happiest Baby on the Block by watching a 10min video and not reading the book. Clearly, we just disagree but that doesn't mean I don't know about the methods. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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Excuse me, you haven't read the book but that's "not necessary"? You only know about Weissbluth (correct spelling) from what other people -- no doubt similarly poorly informed -- have to say about him? That'Please do not advise people on something you know NOTHING about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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^^^ Accidentally hit return. I meant to say: That's asinine. Really moronic and unhelpful. Maybe if you were better rested you would have time and the mental energy to inform yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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lol - I have a 3yo and 7yo - I'm well rested and do fine w/ my parenting. My kids are great and great sleepers. I just didn't need to resort to these kind of methods. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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It is cheap to trash a method or a book when you have no direct knowledge of it. If you had read the book and tried it, or even just read the book, you would have a meaningful opinion. As it is, you're just a hater. Abusive too, since you were unkind to the OP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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OP here: I think 10 months is actually on the older side for this kind of training. The earlier you do it, the easier it is for the baby to get into the habit of falling asleep on his or her own. This is the best thing for my child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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I disagree with you on many levels but that's what's great about parenting... we can all make our choices as to what works for our families... good luck [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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OP: I am a Weissbluth fan, but I don't think it should be followed doctrinaire if it isn't working. Ferber's method is to soothe at gradually longer intervals: 5 minutes, then 10, then 15. This give the baby time to learn to self-soothe without going into panic mode. I strongly feel the sleep-time routines and schedule are most important. Good luck to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:51 AM Flag
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that is sad and doesn't seem compassionate or loving [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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Weisenbluth is awful - look it up on the internet... don't do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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we noticed improvements within 4-5 days but it was weeks before the crying stopped at bedtime and months before it stopped during the night [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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That makes me feel better - I just feel so bad that he is still crying when we put him down. He twists out of my arms when we approach the crib - I feel like I'm traumatizing him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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For some "spirited" babies, CIO doesn't work. They "cry themselves awake" (as a sleep consultant told me) rather than to sleep. My 2nd was like this -- tried CIO at various stages, but she could have screamed all night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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So what did you do?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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you could accept some level of sleep deprivation and feed hold and attend to the baby. It's temporary and they grow out of it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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NP: My 12 mo is still growing out of it. Honestly, I think the sleep deprivation is bad for us both. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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I disagree- when you attend to the baby, the baby goes back to sleep. In our case, dd was hungry, I fed her and we both went back to sleep [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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When I attend to my baby, it takes her 2 or 3 hours to fall asleep. (Last night she was up from 11 to 2). If I let her cry, she's back to sleep in 10-15 minutes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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I soothed her a lot. She started sleeping through the night on her own around 15 months (I know that sounds a long way away for you). At 2.5 she still sometimes needs someone sitting by her bed to fall asleep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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Stubborn implies that it is a willful thing. at 10 months old, a baby may be hungry or awake or whatever [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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He's definitely not hungry - and he's always rubbing his eyes and clearly tired when I put him down. I think he just doesn't want the fun to end... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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It took 4-5 nights for my 6mo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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Try a book called "The Sleepeasy Solution: The Exhausted Parent's Guide to Getting Your Child to Sleep from Birth to Age 5". It's a more 'humane' way of training your baby to go to sleep on his/her own. Try to follow it exactly, if you can, for best results. It has worked well for many moms I've talked to. Good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 03:04 PM Flag
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