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new to UB DH - quiz away [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
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um, welcome I guess [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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do you manscape? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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of course. neat and trim, but enough to still look masculine. whats your preference? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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what does DW think [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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she's used to it by now, so doesn't comment much. she likes it this way - likes the smooth aspect. likes that i don't have much on my chest - and none on my back [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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np: I prefer manscaping to the alternative but I don't want dh to be metrosexual or hyper obsessed with his appearance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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whats wrong with metro? there is an in between - doesn't have to be full blown. I take care of myself, and like to look good - but don't spend much time getting myself together - and don't own lots of product [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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or: My ex-dh turned out to be gay so I find great comfort in my dh's traditional masculinity. He takes care of himself and looks great but until we were together worse awful clothes and shoes and had very bad glasses! He is extremely straight though! I really hate to sound like I am stereotyping but it just turned out that my gay ex-dh could arrange an amazing floral bouquet and got himself waxed while my dh now considers his deodorant to be his high maintenance beauty product. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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sorry to hear that. You had no clue? I agree that he was overkill - i don't wax anything, never have had a manicure, or to a barber. I stick to most manly things - but i also appreciate a good moisturizer - that dw turned me onto. If i turn out to be gay - all her fault [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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boxers or briefs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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boxers for nearly everything - boxer briefs for the gym [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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what brand? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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mostly calvin klein [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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sexy....what color now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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gray pattern [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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doesn't that get expensive? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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np: they are sold in tj maxx [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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they're not much more than some other brands - and when you find ones that fit well and you wear that brand every day - its worth it to spend for quality/comfort. I don't buy $200 jeans, so this is my luxury if you think they're expensive [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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very cool.....hope you look good in them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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as do I! I won't accept letting myself go - at least not at this age [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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what do you look like [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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on here? black text - sort of the the small size, kind of like everyone else. is that what you meant? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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in real life? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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oh, in real life. I've been compared to anderson cooper, although not as much gray and I assume I'm taller. haven't shaved since saturday... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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sexy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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age and occupation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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34, serial entrepreneur [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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any success? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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yes - and some failures - but learned a great deal from all of them! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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what brings you to UB [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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see above - just sold a business and now consulting to them - but its slow going thus far. Evaluating a new opportunity - along the lines of social networking, so i'm playing with a bunch of sites. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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very cool [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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How involved are you with your kids/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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I'd say very - and I think dw would agree. But with us - can depend on my work schedule. Now i'm essentially home all the time - so we split everything or I try to do a bit more. When fustrated my dw will say i need to do more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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How many kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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2 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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ever cheat? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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nope. never tempted honestly. we have a pretty good sex life and even better line of communication - which I think is the key. May not always see eye to eye on frequency, etc - but both of us end up satisfied. That and my wife is beautiful, great shape and a great person - so very little incentive [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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How often do you have sex [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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of course it depends on everything - my work schedule, the kids, what dw has going on, cycle of the moon... on average, 3-4x a week. If the kids are away or we're on vacation, generally at least once a day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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very very nice.....who usually initiates? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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depends - if during the week and she's tired - me. Weekend, its usually her beating me to the punch - but just because I know that she will -and she prefers mornings, where I'm more a night guy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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How did you meet DW? How long after did you ask her on a first date? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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she was a waitress in a bar near where I had an office. I used to go in there to conduct meetings, as the office was unimpressive. She was in school at the time. We developed a good repertoire, and she made me out to seem like a big fish to perspective clients. I was so focused on work I wasn't thinking about how great she was - so she essentially asked me out. Knew her for maybe 6 months [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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what did you do on the first date? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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as in where we went? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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yeah [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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first date was dinner and to a golf range. She had to play in the bar's charity golf tournament that was coming up- and wasn't a golfer, so the date came out of her asking for help. From there I planned the next date and it was more romantic - no clubs involved! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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how far did you guys go on the first date? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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heavy making out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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how soon after did you have sex? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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was the first week - date 3 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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where? how was it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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her apt - wanted to make sure she felt comfortable. First time was great - we had and have amazing chemistry - honestly can't say there was any awkwardness [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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why so quick? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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is that so quick with two adults? we both knew this was more than a hook up and both felt our relationship was ready for it. How long did you wait? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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2 weeks with DH [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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so 3 dates, having known each other for 6 months is too quick? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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nah that's pretty standard.....did you know at the beginning of the date that you'd have sex/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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pretty sure. 2nd date we had to hold ourselves back. I don't think anything would have changed had we done it night one or 10 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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Where do you live? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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westchester, formerly NYC [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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where in westchester? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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When was the last time you had sex? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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that would be sunday [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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What position? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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a fun mix of probably 3 or 4 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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cool [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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Most unusual place you've had sex overall? Most unusual with DW? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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depends what usual is I guess. College days and post were a bit extreme. This was all before DW - at a party in sight of others, club bathroom, tennis hut. with dw - I guess our honeymoon - all over the island and resort - or on hotel balconies [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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very nice! Did others see you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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party - yes, but we were young, drunk and craved attention. Way before the risk of us ending up on youtube that night! as for other times - i'm sure some did - but even if they didn't - imagining they did is half of it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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How many people saw you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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not a clue [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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Where on the island and in resort/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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we took some hikes - off the trail, on desserted beaches, waterfall. Resort, beach at night, beach hut/cabana, off on a walk [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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What does DW do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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stay at home and part time with a not for profit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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How many women have you slept with? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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i'm sure there is some approvable amount that i may exceed - but for sake of honesty - in the 30s [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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no problem with that....does DW know? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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yup - was discussed early. We both accept that we had pasts and don't hide from that. She enjoys hearing some stories, and says she takes comfort in knowing I got in a lot of what i wanted to try. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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what are some things you did that you wanted to try? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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some of your typical male fantasies [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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do tell [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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sex in public, sex with people watching, threesome, same room- pool, hot tubs, beach [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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who was in the same room? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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roommates, another couple [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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they watch? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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yes - part of the draw of it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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how was it? Who were they? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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for the most part - it adds an exciting element to it. The idea of watching and being watched is fun. In most cases- they were friends of an ex, and her roommate - that was a bit odd, but i just went with it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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Why so many? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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much of it was after i broke up, in college, with a gf of 2 years. new found freedom - the crowd I ran with. It was fun, I was safe [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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you sound like a man whore! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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we're all allowed our opinions. if thats yours - so be it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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oh please, I have him beat by double. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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What would you do if your best friend told you he had an affair? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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i'd be disappointed -would have expected better. I really only have remained close with people who I feel are "good" people deep down - and thus I wouldn't expect it. But then again - everyone deals with demons and has issues from time to time - so i'd try to understand him/her - but ensure they did right by their dw/family [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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you enjoying yourself? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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seriously! why are people encouraging him? no one grills a new female poster. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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ha - yeah its fun. I don't see this as grilling fwiw [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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>> np: b/c we don't talk to men all day (How pathetic, never thought my life would come to this. haha) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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I get the vibe some women wish this site was only women, and others like the opportunity to interact with men. great thing is you can choose what you read and what you skip [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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Under what circumstances would you do somethign sexual with a man? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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none that i can think of. if its super hypothetical - if family's life was in jeopardy,etc - but i still think i'd find a way out of it before i was forced to... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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really? even if your family's life were in jeopardy? sheesh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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sorry - was saying if the family's life was in jeopardy- sure, but i would still find a way to save them, avoid a man, and help an old lady cross the street all at once [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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ever wear briefs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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ever - yes. recently - no. Its been years and years [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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why did you switch [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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i think i switched in my teens - comfort [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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Ever have a threesome? give details! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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yes - post college years, and once with DW. you really want details? not like movies - usually drunk, good for the most part [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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give us details for both [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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too funny. is this a dh or a dw? (not that I'd be able to validate!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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DW.....curious about both.....espeically with DW [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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college i dated a girl who at the time was more experienced than I was - so I sort of fell in line. I was enamored with what she was into - was a new world for me. She and I were all about sex - not much relationship - so it was empty but it worked then. She was just a big party girl, so she had a way of making situations materialize. She was into other women. DW - she had a fantasy of two guys, and it was something I was into doing for her - so, we made it happen. We were engaged at the time. And no - I wasn't with the guy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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who was the guy? did you mind being naked with him? did you mind seeing her with him? what positions did you guys use? any accidental touching betwene you and him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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he was an acquaintance from a sailing club. Someone we knew but not in our circle of friends. Single, bachelor type. Didn't mind being naked with him - not much different than a locker room really. The whole idea was for them to be together, and thankfully that was the erotic part. Yeah, it was fun - not like I imagined, but didn't know what to expect. We mixed it up - some with just me, some just him, some all three of us. No touching between us - did we bump arms or legs- probably, but he was the same as I was - not into it for that reason. It was on a boat so - it was tight quarters to begin with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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have you seen him since? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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saw him after, but not in years. We moved away. Somehow, he never made it onto our xmas card list - must be an oversight! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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what was it like seeing him have sex with her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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honestly - intense. It was really a mix of emotions. With an ex that we had done similar - it was different because we weren't at the same emotional level dw and I were at. But I think that actually heightened it. It was something she really wanted to try, so I was into it for her, and surprised myself by how much I otherwise was into it. The hottest aspect was that she enjoyed it and fulfilled a fantasy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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I can believe it was intense.....you get jealous at it? Or turned on by it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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both. more turned on than anything, but at first - and once she settled into it - there were points of being like wow, she is really into this - but then i remembered its her fantasy, and what was i to expect - they weren't going to play Uno. I think i mentioned that i was surprised that it turned me on as much as it did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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what did you think when she first mentioned it to you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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well it was in the course of fooling around - years before and it was interesting - but not something I was ready for. Subsequently - it was very hot to discuss. I never felt she wanted it it because I wasn't enough [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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did you guys have any limits on what either of you would/wouldn't do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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she beforehand said she wouldn't kiss him - but she called an audible. other than that - we had a safety word, used condoms - and she was in control [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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how did you approach the other guy? how did he react? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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no approach or discussion before - It was after a race - we had been drinking for hours, and she took the lead and said we should keep partying on my boat - as she wasn't having fun with everyone else. That was the bait and it was clear to him her/our intentions on board. At that point- it was just go with the flow [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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"called an audible?" huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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sorry - football term - she called for a change of plans on the fly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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you mind that she kissed him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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mind no - but it was her rule, which was important to her to establish. but she felt that the reasons she didn't want to, didn't make sense. and she just felt it made her feel cheap or something that they didn't kiss, and he didn't really know she wasn't so - he was confused at first. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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did her changing plans on the fly freak you out? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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freak no. surprise yes, but it was her rule, so it wasn't like she broke mine. I was fine with that from the beg. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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new dh: you're a better man than i. maybe it's different when you're in the situation, context and all that, but just the thought of my wife having sex w/someone else would make me insane. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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don't get me wrong, its not a decision for when you're sober, and this was pre kids and such. Also - not sure if your dw has expressed a desire for it - but when your partner puts it out there the way mine did - it makes you want to do something for them - at least it did for me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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Another new Dh: how did she put it out there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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is this so you can give dw ideas?! details are fuzzy, but in such a way where it could have been innocent or it could have been more. She just invited him back with us - as the scene at the bar was getting old and she told him it would be more fun on the boat just the three of us [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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i can understand that - but i think i'd feel differently once i was in the situation - watching another man have his way with her, seeing her get off - i honestly don't know about that... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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i totally understand. It was uncharted territory, but it was fun. We were younger and such - so- maybe wouldn't do it again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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what was teh double penetration like for you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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didn't do it - not sure it even came up - but it was a small bed on a boat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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why the boat? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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we were at the marina - and it wasn't either of our beds I guess- maybe too personal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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would you do it again? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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well things are different now with kids, but, i would never say never. If we both wanted it, and we were away w/o kids, I'd go for it again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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What is something kinky you want to do with DW that you haven't? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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well it will never happen, but I like the idea of "cacthing" her with someone. I'd settle for catching her flirting [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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Have you thought of going to a bar with her and having her flirt with a guy while you watched and then going home with her? DH and I did it and he was an animal in bed it was a turn on for him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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yes - we have and its bar far one of my favorite role playing. But its so scripted - but still fun. I'm sure I was just like you dh the times we've done it. We all have some jealousy - and this gets to the heart of it. Plus she loves the attention, where she normally might not get as much when we're together, from other random guys. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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How are you when your watching her flirt with other guys? When do you step in? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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how am I - i prefer to step back into the shadows and just watch. Have tried to be close to hear her - but end up getting into a conversation of my own - and then can't really watch her. We had a signal if she needed me or he got creepy, or if she couldn't take anymore. I really left it up to her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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Have you done it with a woman flirting with you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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we did try it - but its so different as you can imagine. A guy will make it clear they would be looking for sex - when i was talking to a woman one time, she was more into having my babies. Not so fun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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New DH: That would be a big turn off for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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old dh: agreed. I approached the woman I felt was most looking to be picked up, and she turned out to be the one most looking to settle down. We laughed about it later - so much easier for a woman to find a guy to flirt with. When I haven't tried to find a woman, they appear [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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how did you react to that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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it was actually an engaging conversation, but not what i was looking for. That and I was interested to see what DW was doing at the bar. I eventually had to be rude and say i had to leave - and she was a bit taken back, so I felt bad for that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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What is your most humiliating moment? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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business meeting - was well prepared, but a stakeholder turned it into a rant against me and the opportunity, to the point it got out of hand. As close as I've gotten to crawling into a corner and hiding [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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What did you do to get DW in the mood the first few timesafter having the babies [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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good question. I really let her dictate when she was ready. I made sure she knew it would only go as far as felt ok for her, and I made sure that she felt sexy, and wanted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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awww...that's nice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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What is a deep secret you are holding? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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really no good ones come to mind. Sad, but true. one maybe - Supposedly a family member had a child that was given up for adoption, but i don't know the truth and it has since blown over. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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any none good ones? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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sorry to disappoint! how about you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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That I once gave his best friend a BJ before we started dating. How would you react if your wife told you that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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i assume i'd be ok with it - it didn't happen when we dated? I'd wonder why it never came up before - but I'm sure i've done similiar. Maybe we'd turn it into a fun night [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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would you be comfortable inviting your best friend to join you and DW in bed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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best friend hits too lcose to home. Her best friend - different story! kidding. I think ideal is someone you casually know - so you know they're safe, but not someone who will be cheering on the same sideline at soccer at 9am [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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it happened about a month before DH and I had our first date [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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ah - and why did you never tell him - don't you worry it will come out? living with guilt? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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we didn't want DH to think that he was getting "sloppy seconds" and all that, and its never really come out....only the best friend and I know about it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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does it come up between you guys at all? do you think about it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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i've thought about it a few times and no it doesn't come up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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how do you think about it - as a turn on or the guilt from not telling him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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turn on.....i'll be honest his best friend is bigger than he is [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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i thought size wasn't everything! see - it seems to me its an issue, and not so much that it was his friend- but more that you're non content with your current sex life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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I am really content with my current sex life.....I love DH nad he's my best lover....mainly the idea of the bigger dick was nice.....and size isn't everything, but you do remember your biggest [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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I see - so then its a good memory for you, no reason why you can't look back on it and smile time to time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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What do you think of this chat? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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its interesting - and a good insight into this demographic for me. I am curious who is asking the questions - gender, age, socio economic - but I realize we'll never know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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you mind sharing all of this with everyone [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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no - i'll tell dw later- she'll get a kick out of it. I'm sure no one will be calling her and saying - was that your dh on here??? And if they do - so be it, most of it is our past. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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DW here: If my DH told me about this chat, I'd kinda be turned on, just my perspective [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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really? good to know! I told her I was coming on here so she would have asked regardless if it turned to sex et all or not. I didn't expect this though! Why is it a turn on - the honesty? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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What's your favorite sex position? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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nothing beat missionary for intimacy and joint pleasure - and so many variations to make it different for dw. others may feel better or are kinkier - but its the best mix [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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very cool [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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and what about the female perspective? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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Where is a place you haven't had sex but want to? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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one that comes to mind is an airplane - but honesty not a huge desire. Maybe behind a screen at a club - people seeing our shadows. Oh - and i'll toss in a bachelorette party [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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what with a bacherlette party [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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or a sex toys party, or book club. Some gathering of women, with dw where they want the male perspective and it alcohol takes over and caution is thrown to the wind [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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so something like where DW invites you to her women's book club so you can give the male perspective on the book and the wine flows and the discussion gets hot and they start tearing your clothes off and have woman on women sex and then one after another engage you in verious sex acts until you are exhausted on teh floor covered in sweat [ Reply | More
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thats a bit too pornish for me. I liked everything up until it turned to an orgy. Maybe its a smaller group and they encourage - or dare us to do stuff to each other and we more put on a show - maybe they touch her a bit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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NP: that would be fun to watch......another couple doing whatever we told them to [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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a group of women telling the couple - or another couple? I agree - but it just seems so impractical! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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telling the couple what to do! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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set it up - we're there! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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How much do your friends' know about your sex life? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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my friends don't know much about stuff with dw and I. Thats private (although - now public sinse I've divulged.) They knew things years after about some exs - but i didn't tell them as it happened. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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Have you ever done a fuorsome? Would you consider it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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with an ex, yes. with dw - no. Would I consider it with her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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would you consider it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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I'd never say never. Would have to be ideal situation - she is curious for the female aspect - i'd see that before another couple [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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When you are in a locker room do you casually look to see how you compare to teh other guys? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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casually no. Do you catch a glimpse with peripheral vision, sure, but it really escapes your mind moments later. I'm more about getting showered and out of there. I've been around enough lockerooms and sports